• TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      9 months ago

      Self improvement to realize an idealized self is it’s own reward. In doing so, you become more attractive to people in a natural way. It’s not contradictory. Chasing self improvement as a vehicle to love or sex has the pitfall of losing your motivation for self improvement when you suffer rejection, but rejection is normal, common, and not as big a deal as it can sometimes feel.

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        9 months ago

        If you want this, do that.
        But don’t do that only because you want this.

        It’s still pretty contradictory.
        I think it’s just one of the necessary contradictions/lies that society requires to function.