I could understand if she preferred men but she completely does not find women attractive. And because she likes men, she is certainly not a lesbian.

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    I didn’t even know I was maybe into women until 18 and didn’t get involved with a woman until 21.

    That’s a lot of pressure for a teenager. She’s probably bisexual and just scared to go through with it. Or perhaps she’s a lesbian but enjoys the attention of men.

    I find gatekeeping sexuality to be the most toxic trait of queer people and extremely harmful to the community. I had a boyfriend from 18-21 because one I loved him and sex was fun - raging hormones are raging hormones - and two compulsive heterosexuality. I’m 36 and I’ve been with two men in my life and countless women. I’m a lesbian. The fact that two men made it through the filter doesn’t change that. I’m still friends with the second man (first one who I was with 18-21 and lost virginity to I stopped talking to at 21) and saw him today despite the fact we haven’t hooked up in a decade.

    Leave her alone and stop being the fucking sex police.

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      25 days ago

      I’m not being a sex police?? I just asked a question?? I genuinely didn’t know. That makes sense though, thank you.

      I wasn’t trying to gatekeep, I was trying to be supportive. That’s why i asked. That’s all I wanted to know. I was curious.