I could understand if she preferred men but she completely does not find women attractive. And because she likes men, she is certainly not a lesbian.
I just want to reference lazily that both internalised homophobia and cultural appropriation exist. So, it might not be known why, but this doesn’t mean homophobic remarks (i.e. how) cannot be countered.
Did this not get enough traction the last time you posted this with a different account?
I didn’t?
must have been someone who had a similar experience, I’m a first-time lemmy user.
I’m romantically attracted to women, but sexually attracted to feminine bodies regardless of genitals (I appreciate both). I’d date a femm woman, trans woman, or femboy, but never a masculine man or masculine woman. I think that makes me bisexual, but I’m not really sure.
I’d say so. Are you perhaps gynesexual?
That makes sense
Fear, confusion, not being ready to be out yet. Those are all assuming good faith.
Bad faith: attention, hatred of men, appropriation….
She’s very outward about being sapphic. IDK, she seems to really like men from what I know and has crushes on several of them. She also hangs out with dudes a lot
Probably bisexual. How old is she?
17
I didn’t even know I was maybe into women until 18 and didn’t get involved with a woman until 21.
That’s a lot of pressure for a teenager. She’s probably bisexual and just scared to go through with it. Or perhaps she’s a lesbian but enjoys the attention of men.
I find gatekeeping sexuality to be the most toxic trait of queer people and extremely harmful to the community. I had a boyfriend from 18-21 because one I loved him and sex was fun - raging hormones are raging hormones - and two compulsive heterosexuality. I’m 36 and I’ve been with two men in my life and countless women. I’m a lesbian. The fact that two men made it through the filter doesn’t change that. I’m still friends with the second man (first one who I was with 18-21 and lost virginity to I stopped talking to at 21) and saw him today despite the fact we haven’t hooked up in a decade.
Leave her alone and stop being the fucking sex police.
I’m not being a sex police?? I just asked a question?? I genuinely didn’t know. That makes sense though, thank you.
I wasn’t trying to gatekeep, I was trying to be supportive. That’s why i asked. That’s all I wanted to know. I was curious.
you can be sexually attracted to women, but not romantically attracted, and vice versa. maybe that’s what’s going on with her?
Was my first thought. “Hetero-flexible” if you will.
Honesty with oneself and others is a sign of maturity. 😶
TERF lol. Many women fear men so much they’ll be lesbians as a political statement more than anything else. Transwomen are anathema to them hence the acronym.
We don’t know whether the friend is trans herself. Also, lesbian desire is not trans-exclusive (of course she might think that, but that is not something we should adopt).
The fuck are you going on about
Because she is intentionally or unintentionally lying to your and/or herself for some unknown purpose that likely has short term benefits, but also likely has long term ramifications she isn’t aware enough of to believe that making a proper assessment of the situation is even worth the effort.
