I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.
He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going
…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.
In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?
Honestly, and I already know I’m massively against the consensus here, but you should be the bigger man.
Tell your brother that you disagree with him but that he’s family, you’ll always love him and that you’re honoured to be a guest at his wedding.
If you want to draw a line and say “let’s not talk about politics though” or something like that, then absolutely do.
Don’t have all your family and his friends talk about how you’re refusing to attend because you had a fall out over politics, you’re not going to appear principled, you’re going to appear petty. You’ve made your point to your brother, now move on.
The bigger man has standards and doesn’t meet a fascist.
Family is family but I wouldn’t wish to go to a fascist’s marriage, ever.
The one who is petty, would be the Nazi, for refusing to be normal. If you look bad because the Nazi calls you petty, then so be it. We are people, we are civil, and we have standards.
You’ve applied the label of fascist and Nazi yourself, nowhere in OPs post does he define his brother as a fascist or Nazi. Left Vs Right political differences doesn’t mean you automatically get to apply labels like commie or Nazi, a lot of people on Lemmy need to grow up.
OP bought up the Musk debate with his brother knowing that his brother is a right winger, then OP got upset when his brother acted just as you’d expect. He poked a dog with a stick and then got upset when it barked.