So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
Speaking as a hetero, 5 minutes is on the high end of normal for continuous penis insertion. However, the actual sex with my fiancée tends to take longer than that due to the foreplay, switching to mstarubtraing her until I am ready for a second round, a couple minutes of cuddling when she needs to rest, etc. No idea how this translates to gay sex.
My understanding is that typical gay sex goes until you cum and then you are done. Back when I was dating a gay guy, sex was mostly unsuccessful due to his erectile dysfunction, so my personal experience is limited.