So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
People have already pointed out that this is very normal, but I also want to push back on the framing here.
Does it actually matter whether this is normal or not? Everyone has sex a little differently and that is OK. This is the way your partner’s body works right now.
That said, while you haven’t stated this explicitly, it sounds like maybe you are wanting the receptive part of sex to last longer. If so, there are a number of strategies that can make this possible. Going slower or changing things up, etc. It is probably a good idea to think carefully about how you make this request though. Due to the unrealistic expectations you have fallen prey to, this can be a sensitive topic for many people. I wouldn’t frame it in a way that suggests you aren’t satisfied, but rather that you think a few of these strategies would be fun to try to see if you can extend your sessions and have more pleasure.
But good sex is not a natural talent that people just have. It happens by clearly communicating and pursuing both your and your partner’s desires. That’s an important skill the practice to improve things.