So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
Treat sex like a meal, dessert for me is the best bit. I don’t jump right to dessert, and it’s not where I spend the majority of my time.
Teasing - starter. Start at the beginning of the day, “I’m gonna do X”, “You’re gonna feel Y”, “You’re so z”. Sets expectations, gets people in the mindset, communication about sex outside in a neutral space is important. It’s an appetiser.
Foreplay - main course. Do the things, what ever “the things” means for you. Aim to spend the majority of your “fun” here. Edge, tease touch, lick, suck, toys, all the verbs.
Final cummings - dessert. Just a nice finisher to an incredible meal.
Or not, maybe you like cum play and penetration is the foreplay. I don’t know I’m not you.