Well those 3 hour fuck fests in porn are definitely not real and are often cut to make it seem that way.

For some perspective - the average time from penetration to ejaculation is around 5 to 7 minutes, the data ranges from 30 secs to around 45 min, in extremes over an hour.

There’s a couple of factors that influence “performance time”, partner dynamic, stresslevel, fitness, emotional state and age. For example the average time goes up with age.

There’s also some things you can do to lengthen it, for example men can also greatly profit from kegel exercises, tools like rings or some meds can also help lengthen the act.

And you can also help your partner, switch positions, play around with the intensity and rhythm of the penetration. The best sex I had usually involved a lot of trust and communication, the more you get to know each other, the more fun it gets - at least to me.

I sometimes joke that sex is a little like this 90s children’s toy “bop it”: twist this, bop that, pull here, push there, Kiss this, lick that.

Build trust, communicate with each other, try out different things, don’t put too much focus or pressure on the length of the “penetration time” but on the quality of the sex you have overall.

And don’t forget to just have fun. My partner and I laugh and giggle a lot during “le sexy time” but being that comfortable with each other takes trust and time, also we’re just silly people.