So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
When you find someone else hot and you’re not jacking to porn it’s a miracle any man lasts more than a minute. With a bit of experience you can pace yourself and last longer. It would take deliberate thought to last, say, 20 mins. Many men couldn’t do direct stimulation for that long. So it’s probably worth talking about how to pace things, switch things up, have quickies and then other times longer times.