I feel like I have nothing to offer in a relationship, besides friendship. So, what personality traits do you have to possess in order to maybe steer someone from wanting friendship to wanting a relationship? I don’t mean this like getting out of the “friend-zone” I mean like prior to that.
I guess there is not really a secret sauce for this. But generally what did the other person do differently for you that made you want to have a relationship with them, rather than just friendship?
If you feel like you have nothing to offer in a relationship besides just friendship, it might be a sign that you are not ready for a relationship yet. However, you might try and have a relationship with someone and see what happens. If it goes well, then your judgement of yourself was wrong, if not then you aren’t ready for it yet.
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Depends on the relationship. Different people want different things, to different degrees. One person’s “making me feel valued” is another person’s “too clingy”. One person’s independence is another person’s indifference. One person’s ambition is another person’s exhaustion.
Focus on the person. What does that individual want and like in a relationship?
You have to know what you want out of life. Figure out what it is you want and find someone who you enjoy being around who wants the same things.
And don’t say I just want a loving relationship. That’s a cop-out. What are your hopes for the future of yourself? Where will you be? What will you be doing? How will you be doing it? These things interact with your personality to make you who you are. Even a vague idea of the answer to those questions will help you.
If you don’t have a sense of identity and purpose, then there’s nothing for the other person to be attracted to.
I don’t mean to trauma-dump here but, I’m just gonna flat-out say it. My hopes for the future is to be dead in one or two years max. I figured, maybe I can still try to make it at least a little bit more comfortable in the mean time.
But what you’re saying actually makes a lot of sense within my context.
My dude. Being in a relationship is a want, not a need. What you need to do is park your ass in a therapist’s office and trauma dump.
Your wants come much easier when your needs are met.
A relationship won’t soothe what is truly hurting you at your core. It’ll feel nice in the moment, but a bandaid does nothing for internal bleeding.
Why do you want to die?
Global Warming mostly and an overall feeling of “Enough is enough.” Like what’s left to gain in the future?
If you’re concerned about the climate, you could take action and attempt to change things. In terms of what we gain, that’s up to you. Maybe it’s as trivial as seeing the sequel to your favorite movie. There’s not enough time to experience everything this world has to offer. That’s the sad part to me. I’ll just try to experience what I can for as long as I can.
Don’t undersell real friendship, though. My best partners were also my closest friends.
It’s not worth it. Money and material possessions will never reject you. Prioritize what’s important.
Okay I’m gonna start prioritising people and connections over money, as that’s more important.
Who wants to be on their death bed surrounded by their dollars and not loved ones.
Networking is really important, when trying to advance your career, or get your foot in the door on new investment opportunities. You’re on the right track!
Keep burning money bro, I’m sure the next thing you buy will make you feel fulfilled. That’s how that works, right?
Well first you invest the money into passive income sources. And you only burn a fraction of the dividends, and reinvest the majority.
Are you suggesting you need someone else to complete you?
Doesn’t look like I said anything about that in my comment, so not sure where you got that from.
Was I ridiculing your assertion that consumerism will bring anyone long-term satisfaction in life? Yep.
Long-term satisfaction or happiness is a ruse. Contentment is something you constantly have to work at, and nurture, and the activities or items that might help bring you that zen change day to day, year to year.
Money absolutely aids you in that pursuit.
Money absolutely aids you in that pursuit.
I agree with this statement completely. However, basing your happiness on the things you can afford to buy or buy is an exercise in futility.
Building upon my last comment, I also believe basing your happiness on someone else is also courting disaster. You’ll only find true happiness within yourself.
Then I don’t think there’s necessarily anything to get bent out of shape over, because we probably agree on a lot more than we disagree on. It was probably just my delivery that was crass, and tongue in cheek.
I wasn’t under the impression anyone is bent out of shape about this. I just don’t agree with your assertion.
