Teachers describe a deterioration in behaviour and attitudes that has proved to be fertile terrain for misogynistic influencers

“As soon as I mention feminism, you can feel the shift in the room; they’re shuffling in their seats.” Mike Nicholson holds workshops with teenage boys about the challenges of impending manhood. Standing up for the sisterhood, it seems, is the last thing on their minds.

When Nicholson says he is a feminist himself, “I can see them look at me, like, ‘I used to like you.’”

Once Nicholson, whose programme is called Progressive Masculinity, unpacks the fact that feminism means equal rights and opportunities for women, many of the boys with whom he works are won over.

“A lot of it is bred from misunderstanding and how the word is smeared,” he says.

But he is battling against what he calls a “dominance-based model” of masculinity. “These old-fashioned, regressive ideas are having a renaissance, through your masculinity influencers – your grifters, like Andrew Tate.”

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      9 months ago

      And you know the saying “apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” yeah? It may explain the bullying.

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          No, but bullying happens in every school, why was your daughter being bullied by even the kids who get bullied, as you said? It doesn’t just happen randomly, kids find the weakest one of the group and let them know it. I say this as someone who was extensively bullied in school and yet another reason I don’t care for having kids.

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            And you know the saying “apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” yeah? It may explain the bullying.

            Your words. That is saying the bullying is justified. You’re blaming her for being bullied.

            I would not even remotely suggest that your extremely rude behavior would “explain” your extensive bullying. Because it doesn’t. That is victim-blaming. Why you think anything my daughter has ever done “explains” why she was bullied is just disgusting. It’s exactly the same sort of victim blaming as “does she wear short skirts? That may explain the rape.” There is no difference whatsoever.

            And you being bullied does not excuse you from blaming the victim of bullying.

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              I’m going for a hike while there is still some daylight. Hopefully you don’t waste your entire day on here sir.

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                  9 months ago

                  To be fully clear I was blaming you for your kid’s bullying

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                    9 months ago

                    That is a lie.

                    This is what you said:

                    And you know the saying “apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” yeah? It may explain the bullying.

                    The saying “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” means the child behaves like the parent. So you were saying she was bullied because she behaved like I do. Which is blaming her for the bullying.

                    I don’t know why you’re telling such a ridiculous lie when everyone can read what you wrote.