Masturbation abstinence is popular online. Doctors and therapists are worried::undefined

  • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeEnglish
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    9 months ago

    I don’t think masturbation itself is the issue and perhaps not porn either but I think there’s still a kernel of truth to this. There are some people like me to whom it really is an issue. The way my brain works is that 1 hour of masturbation is twice as good as 30 minutes and then obviously 2 hours is twice as good as 1 hour and then it’s 4am and I must force myself to stop or I’m not sleeping at all. It’s a button I can press that makes me feel good and unless you take it away from me I’m not going to stop pressing it. Masturbation alone isn’t exciting enough for it to get out of hand like this but when you combine it with porn then some people simply get sucked in and it’s really really difficult to get out.

    I’ve heard interesting theories about how in the past frustrated men like me would take out to the streets and express their frustration by breaking windows and kicking grannies but despite the record numbers of “us” now we’re still not seeing this in the world. Atleast not to the scale you’d expect. Where are those men? Well in their mothers basements playing games, smoking weed and jerking off to porn. It’s not what we wanted but it’s “fine” - could be worse.

    • Rolder@reddthat.comEnglish
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      9 months ago

      I feel like the real difference is that, in the past, prostitution was a bit more common, so men could just get their kicks with a woman rather then with their hand.

      • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeEnglish
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        9 months ago

        Prostitution is not free. Even if it was more widely available it still wouldn’t be much of a help for unemployed men. Also why bother when porn and masturbation is free and enough to take the edge off? People are willingly opting out of the dating market aswell because it’s just not worth the trouble when the alternative doesn’t even require you to leave your home.

          • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeEnglish
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            9 months ago

            If you’re getting laid for 20 bucks you’re most likely taking advantage of someone in a desperate situation

            • Pfifel@lemmy.worldEnglish
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              9 months ago

              The same can be said for the prostitute no?

              If your client can only afford 20$ worth of service, shouldn’t he be spending it elsewhere that’s more important? I guess more realistically “twitch thots”/onlyfans and desperate people giving them their waaay too much money.

    • xePBMg9@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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      9 months ago

      How can you just keep going? Do you not come or do you not have a refractory period? Don’t you get tired during the refractory period? Are you perhaps suffering from some other mental problems that won’t allow you to sleep? Are you napping allot during the day? Do you sleep for a long time in the mornings? No set alarm to get up, shifting your hours forward?