Working just gets worse… 😔
Spoken like someone that hasn’t been working very long, or if at all.
While school can be very pressure intense around exams in ways many jobs aren’t you at least have summer and other breaks. For work you get vacation time sure, but it’s nowhere near in terms of time.
Further adult life has a whole slew of responsibilities on top that you need to handle. Most 30+ can’t subside on the crap we ate during college, we can’t fuck off from our responsibilities when we can’t be arsed with minimal consequences and we sure as shit won’t find social stimulus without putting in effort, neither friends nor romantic. Sure if you live where you’ve always lived then you hopefully have childhood/school friends left at 30 but if you’ve moved then it’s not a given at all.
can’t fuck off from our responsibilities when we can’t be arsed with minimal consequences
This might be the most (long term) depressing thing about adult life. Having a class for a semester or a year means that the mental overhead of a class builds up but, when you’re done, that demand is gone and you start over without baggage next term. Jobs build up that overhead, but it just never lets off, ever, unless you quit to take a new job. Switching (professional) jobs is similar to a semester/year end and - esp if you can swing a couple weeks in between - gives you that re-zeroing and that little honeymoon period at the beginning like the start of a class when you don’t have homework yet. The difference is that the switch often occurs on a scale of a decade, not a year.
Serious note: make some effort to find a career you actually enjoy so you’re not just waiting for every week to end. Basically waiting to die.
My alternative advice is to find something you’re passionate about to do on the weekdays when you aren’t working.
That’s good, but then 5/7ths of your life is wasted. Plus, you don’t really have the time and energy to fully commit to 2 days of hobbies, so you’re really only enjoying 1/7th of your miserable wasted life.
Sure.
And until you find that job, having something to do in the evenings is how to avoid the feeling that life is just waiting for the weekends
Indeed. Even better is having something to live for, or even something to work for (even if the work itself sucks). And these things can take place on evenings and weekends. Then at least the toil is meaningful because it enables the real work.
*life
I’ve got some bad news for you…
Sounds like you need some B vitamins sonnnnn
Wait until you discover jobs
Work too
Yeah, that totally ends with school.
I definitely don’t live in this state perpetually while I work with no summer break and just a few days at Christmas. Nope. Definitely not.
Being American sounds shit. You really need to fight for paid holiday & sick leave. It’s fucking bonkers you don’t have it.
I’m Canadian, where we market ourselves as better than Americans, but somehow I get more holidays when I’m working for US firms.
Canada is a resource colony state and always has been.
The Americans probably think you’re a limp-wristed monarchist-loving Moose herder who needs his breaks to go pray to the King and chop wood. Don’t question it! The UK and Europe have minimum paid holiday levels, maternity/paternity and paid sick leave. Surprised Canada doesn’t but you guys need to do something about that too.
Canada does, but it’s managed by each province.
Ontario for example reduced sick days, there are no paid sick days, and all work is “at will” which is to say “at will of the employer” to fire you with or without cause.
Which province has the most progressive employment laws? Just in case I ever emigrate…
No idea, probably Quebec, except they’re regressive in their own ways
Fuckin’ tell me about it. Its bad enough our institutions treat us like dogs, but then the Europeans like to come in gloating.
Just wait until you finish school and join the work force lol
Yeah school is the tutorial :-/
It turns from “just make it through this week” to “just make it through this day”
What do you think life is… :)
Even though it’s not endless, thank God.
Oh, shit, was that supposed to stop at school?
Go wild kids!
It’s not just school!
And then you get out of school and realise that those were the good times.
I always got pretty worried when adults kept saying that school was the good times growing up, as I didn’t have a particularly good time, and was not onboard for it being downhill from there.
Luckily I’ve learned that it’s not actually universally applicable, my life has definitely just gotten better as I’ve gotten older.
For me, school was a shithole that I was glad it was over, those were not the good years. Things are not perfect, but they have gotten radically better ever since.
The only thing about school that was good is that I made a few very good friends. Those are probably going to be life long friendships.
Nah, peak is university in terms of free time.
If you knew how many times I thought about ditching my job and just go to uni again…
I mean, for the subset of people who go to uni and can support themselves without also working a lot in that time, yeah.
In my time at uni there was
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work, at which the hours were inconsistent
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coursework, which there was a lot of
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constantly battling a shit landlord who didn’t give a toss about uni students and left the flat in disrepair, but the housing shortage meant he could get away with charging a fortune for a mouldy flat with broken windows and non-working appliances
There was a lot of good, sure, but uni can be a very stressful time.
So basically “people who would still get a job at daddy’s company regardless of a degree but a degree looks better for PR”
There is a big range between “parents could save up for their kid’s college” and “parents own a large successful company”.
I’m just some grunt working an office job, but I’m still lucky enough to be able to put away money for my kid’s college fund since they were born. I hope that they won’t need a job to get through college, when/if they go.
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If you can afford not working, yeah. That wasn’t a reality for me or most people I know. Luckily I’m in a career that doesn’t value a major that much, so I dropped out after finding a decent job
