Never had it, probably never will. So I’m curious.

(If the question isn’t allowed, which I don’t think is, for some reason I’ll delete the post)

Thank you.

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    You know when you’re so thirsty that your lips are chapped and your mouth is dry, but then you drink some water and it’s so fucking good because it’s exactly what you needed and every fiber of your being is consumed by the moist euphoria of that water cascading over every ripple and fold of your esophagus until you’re finally quenched to the point of bursting and you release a satisfied " …ahhhhhh!"

    It’s like that, but you also get to squeeze some titties

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    Depends on your age bracket, in my opinion.

    At 20, it’s like catching the game winning touchdown for the national championship when your team was the underdog.

    At 40, it’s like winning a hundred bucks on a lottery scratcher.

    At 50, it’s like getting a free order of onion rings with your meal.

    At 60, it’s like getting an extra nugget in your 9 piece.

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        So yea it’s not very far from that, some enjoy gaming some live for it, some are noobs at the game but try to do their best some are just simply good at it, the enjoyment is when both are having fun otherwise it’s a temporary pleasure same as jerking off but with heavy weights and without using your hand because you’ll have to shake a whole another person’s body until you come, so if you love working out it’s the best and most fun workout

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      Full agree. I end up just screaming for like 30 seconds straight when I orgasm with my partner. It’s insanity.

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    The physical parts of it can be imitated well enough with the various devices, so you can experience those whenever.

    The emotional side of things is much more complicated. For that each person is very very different, and it really depends on the situation, relationship, and intentions… just to name a few sides.

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      Yeah, I would probably wouldn’t know what to do, I don’t have “feelings” and stuff as much, I’m very cold

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        I mean… you know how your bits work, it’s easy to figure that your partner knows how their bits work… It just takes some communication to do something that feels nice for both sets of bits.

        It’s not unusual for the first several times to be a bit awkward as you learn about the others preferences, but it gets better as you become more comfortable with the quirks of your partner.

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          Dude, there’s a reason I never had a partner and I’m still virgin. My brain just doesn’t work like that

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    On the flip side to your question - if it don’t feel right then that’s a good time to stop (or alter) what you’re doing.

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    Sex is quite a broad term but if what you’re asking is ‘what does it feel like to stick my dick into vagina’ then go buy a fleshlight, run some warm water thru it, lube your dick and try it out. It’s not exactly the same but it’s pretty close.

    My personal opinion? Overrated. That’s what it feels like.

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      I find the idea of using a toy for my cum even more disgusting than other suggestions here. And honestly would make me even more depressed.

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        Any particular reason why? It’s socially acceptible for women to use toys but it’s a shame it’s taboo for men.

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            I know plenty of guys that regularly have Sex, but still own or tried fleshlights or other toys.

            I get your argument, but I’d say it’s probably better suited for life-sized realistic Sex dolls

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        My partner and I have maybe 1-2k USD of toys. Sometimes we don’t even have regular sex, we just use toys on ourselves or each other. Nothing at all wrong with using toys!

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              For me the idea is disgusting. I cannot do that, and again feels like I’m confirming my failure as a healthy fertile male. I already feel bad masturbating

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                Were you raised religious? I was and also struggled with shame and guilt around sex. I’d say around 22 or 23 I finally started getting over it. Started buying toys and now I’ve got a grand in Bad Dragon toys, and another maybe thousand of various other toys. I can think back to when that concept would have disgusted me, too. Now that I’m in my 30s, I have absolutely no shame about it anymore. I hope your feelings about sex get better like mine did.

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                  I don’t believe in any wizard in the sky. And that has nothing to do anyways, many latinos like me are grown into stupid Catholicism and yet quite a few have already gf pregnant before reaching their 20s due bad sex ed. Is just be being unlucky, unable to be social, having no one around and being a failed adult with no job or money to offer to any woman.

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    It’s like masturbation but more clumsy because your partner doesn’t have your nerves to monitor but also they can do neat stuff because muscles and bones and stuff.

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    if you’re curious then pay someone for it. Don’t worry about “purity” or “sanctity” or any of that rubbish, as long as you’re safe (i.e. condom etc).

    It is nicer when you have an emotional connection but if you just wanna see what it’s like and get off then it’s worth $100 to find out.

    Otherwise, I can’t really explain it. It’s kind of running on instinct and just enjoying the ride. But ultimately the pure physical sensation isn’t really different to getting yourself off, but there’s a lot more going on with cuddling and kissing and stuff, which is nice.

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      Is not about the purity or anything like that. The idea of doing it with a woman that does that with a lot of men without taking care is just ehh… Also I would feel like an even bigger loser paying for it (just to be clear, I’m not attacking anyone that pays for it, is just a me thing). Finally I’m too awkward for that.

      See? 3 good reasons why I’m stuck. Oh, plus I’m broke, 100 bucks are a lot of money.

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        A couple of things to understand about professional sex workers:

        First, they are professionals. They understand that people need something from them that they don’t get in the world. Their job is to find a way to provide that, within reason. Many are quite good at it. You’d be surprised.

        Second, there’s a reason it’s known as the world’s oldest profession. I remember an old joke about a guy ranting about the moral sin of masturbation, and someone saying, “Let he among you with a free hand cast the first stone!” Seriously, it’s an industry that’s survived wars, famine, depressions, and everything in between. It’s always had plenty of customers in the worst of times. There’s no shame.

        Finally, you want to identify whether you’re asking about a sex act or making love. Physically, they’re very similar, but emotionally they couldn’t be more different. If all you want to feel is the act, go to a decent escort or buy a flesh-light. If you want the emotional attachment, that takes some work. The good news is if you find it, the awkwardness of the sex act won’t matter. It will be overshadowed by your feelings for one another.

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        $100 is asking for syphilis. Go to the high-end escorts. You can even find review sites where clients discuss the cleanliness of the environment, etc. The pros are open with their doctors about their profession and take the necessary precautions and advice to be safe. I’d say USA $500 per hour and above should net you someone who’s both safe and an expert at making you comfortable rather than nervous.

        Source: have briefly dated two different people in the profession.

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          Like I said before I’m broke, 500 dollars?! That’s basically what I used to earn when I had a job