Never had it, probably never will. So I’m curious.

(If the question isn’t allowed, which I don’t think is, for some reason I’ll delete the post)

Thank you.

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    I find the idea of using a toy for my cum even more disgusting than other suggestions here. And honestly would make me even more depressed.

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      My partner and I have maybe 1-2k USD of toys. Sometimes we don’t even have regular sex, we just use toys on ourselves or each other. Nothing at all wrong with using toys!

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            For me the idea is disgusting. I cannot do that, and again feels like I’m confirming my failure as a healthy fertile male. I already feel bad masturbating

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              Were you raised religious? I was and also struggled with shame and guilt around sex. I’d say around 22 or 23 I finally started getting over it. Started buying toys and now I’ve got a grand in Bad Dragon toys, and another maybe thousand of various other toys. I can think back to when that concept would have disgusted me, too. Now that I’m in my 30s, I have absolutely no shame about it anymore. I hope your feelings about sex get better like mine did.

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                I don’t believe in any wizard in the sky. And that has nothing to do anyways, many latinos like me are grown into stupid Catholicism and yet quite a few have already gf pregnant before reaching their 20s due bad sex ed. Is just be being unlucky, unable to be social, having no one around and being a failed adult with no job or money to offer to any woman.

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                  I’ve been atheist all my life, I didn’t ask your beliefs. I asked if you were raised religious. I was, despite not believing it, and the shame around sex still affected me.

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                    Me and my bro grew up in the same grandmother house. He got laid when he was 16. So, no has nothing to do, the “curse” is on me only. And me not wanting to use toys is a new decision to not feel like an even bigger failure.

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                  “being unlucky” - aren’t we all, at least sometimes? “Unable to be social” - believe it or not, this is a learnable skill! Google or YouTube ‘how to make friendly conversation’ “Having no one around” - are you living alone in a forest where you must hunt/gather all your food? Even if that is the case, you clearly have the Internet! “Being a failed adult” - again, all adult skills are learned skills. That’s why babies are so bad at adulting. “No job or money” - those are things you can get! The more skills you have, the easier it will be! “To offer any woman” - If your goal is a GF, get skills that make you a desirable partner.

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                    Again with this. Skills, that I can use for a real job that I can use, aren’t free. And you need to finish school and stuff, plus being immigrant doesn’t help, is not like I didn’t tried. I’m empty and have nothing to offer, which means there’s nothing that can grow. YouTube? Dude, YouTube isn’t the real world. Majority of tutoring about getting some are hacks trying to abuse desperate men. I have enough shit to deal with the way I’m living right now, I don’t need “tips” from a rich creep.

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      Any particular reason why? It’s socially acceptible for women to use toys but it’s a shame it’s taboo for men.

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          I know plenty of guys that regularly have Sex, but still own or tried fleshlights or other toys.

          I get your argument, but I’d say it’s probably better suited for life-sized realistic Sex dolls