Give me your worst, Lemmy! Absolutely nothing is off limits. Let’s get fucking weird!
I post this here because /c/iama doesn’t seem to be a thing…
Don’t hold back you jerks!
EDIT: It’s just about 05:00 for me. Night night! I’ll answer any other questions. In a few hours!
What’s the hardest part of being out as trans, other than the obvious transphobes? The subtle stuff most people don’t think about, I mean.
Not the OP, but if you are soliciting opinions…
For me it’s the fact that nobody really believes us when we talk about our issues or even the things we personally experience. Even well meaning people, even friends, immediately assume that we are exaggerating or imagining things when we talk, or assume they know better about what is or is not harmful to us.
Like the obvious hateful transphobes are one thing. But getting that attitude from people one knows personally is tiring and more than a little scary.
For me, the hardest part is trying to figure out where I belong. In Viet culture, at a party, the guys hang with the guys, and the girls with the girls. Even when I put a full face on, I never feel like I am one of the girls. It doesn’t help that everyone knew me before I came out. So I don’t fit in anywhere. It’s lonely. My sister Chi Man tries to help, but I am usually the odd one out. This has been going on for years now, so I have tried to make peace with it. This is a lonely life. With that said, I do not regret my decision to live as the person I am meant to be.
All I need in this life is my son and my best friend. That is enough for me.
I prefer MacOS overall. Explain to me why I am so wrong!
My rPi is obvs on Debian, but does Plex really count?
I can’t because I’m still using my old Mac Pro 2013 with other Apple products.
Mac on the laptop + Linux on the server = pure heaven.
What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you since coming out as trans?
Let’s find the benchmark for making the questions weird.
That is a great question!
I need to preface this by saying that my entire friend group is Viet.
In Viet culture, male and female roles are explicitly defined. That means that, generally, the girls hang with the girls, and the guys hang with the guys.
The weirdest part is kind of sad. I don’t fit in with the girls because I am not feminine enough, and the guys try to grab my tits as a joke. I don’t belong anywhere.
My best friend, Chi Man is the one that helps me stay grounded to this earth.
Otherwise, it’s the usual contract custodian doesn’t get a good look at me, so they warn me about going into the men’s room at work (where I was specifically told to go )
Those guys sound like assholes and many would consider their behaviour to be sexual harassment/ assault.
Agreed. After I was raped the first time, my outlook on the world changed. This was a guy I met on Grindr, and I was not being safe at all. My big sis tried to warn me, but I just wanted to have fun like the cishet people do. I know SA is a big problem when it comes to casual sex and women. I never thought it would happen to me. That is what we all think.
The pigs never even contacted me after my rape-kit at the hospital.
Everyone, regardless of gender., should be careful out there. Remember that the pigs are not your friends; they exist as protectors of property and straight white people.
Hey sorry I’m late, but thanks for your response to my original question above. I’m sorry such shit things have happened to you but I hope things get better <3
Thank you!
Your opinion on programmer socks?
Hold up, are we talking about those knee high socks that don’t match with any clothing what-so-ever??
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/unixsocks
or, i don’t know how im supposed to link communities on here
Vim or Emacs?
Vim all the way!!
Are you AVAB (assigned Vim at birth) or are you trans-editor?
Definitely AVAB. I love working through a terminal. One cannot do everything on iTerm2 as one could do on a Debian distro, but it gets pretty close.
Have you even tried emacs?
Gotta be honest…Maybe once.
sudo apt install mousepad
For most tasks, it’s fine. I originally bought a MacBook because I wanted to do Obj-C programming for iPhone OS, as it was called at that time. However, my ex-wife became pregnant and gave birth to our son. He is almost 16 now, and I cannot seem to find the joy in anything that I once did. He is a sophomore now, once he starts college, I will try to chase my dream of being an indie iOS dev. I really wanted to be a r.petrich of JB fame, but it seems that JB is not for the masses anymore.
I would recommend giving it a try, there is doomemacs if you’re feeling like learning or spacemacs if you don’t. Both have a vi-like usage.
Prove the Generalized Stokes Theorem.
If stuff go in stuff must go out
