…ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what’s one you’ve given?
I’m thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that’s just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I’ve been told not to brag, but also because I’m extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.
My bonus one (and I’m not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he’d never once failed to have my back. He’d be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I’d walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he’d take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of “courage isn’t not being scared, it’s being willing to face it.” I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I’m not sure I phrased it well at the time.
I got my leg fucked up in a hot sandy land far away. While I was doing rehab I used a cane and walked with a limp. One day I was walking out of an HEB in Houston when a dude dressed like Huggy Bear told me he liked my strut and then told me to “keep on pimpen playa.”
In retrospect, it sort of makes sense as my limp with the cane looked like I was doing that stereotypical pimp walk but at the time I was very confused lol
Honestly all of my patients walking when they previously weren’t is a pimp walk to me so. Usually the ones I see are catatonia though, not ortho. I still vibe deeply with this video.
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One time I was at Chipotle and realized I was staring at the guy putting pico on my soft tacos and I didn’t want him to think he’d done something wrong so I just blurted out that his facial hair suited his face very well and then I felt awkward so I just bolted to the end of the line, got the order to go, and ate in my car, so you give me a little hope that maybe he didn’t think I was completely weird.
This guy once told me “Your hair looks small” as a compliment… I still dont’t know what to make of it.
It’s an It’s Always Sunny reference!
After some research, this redditor sums the moment up thus: “Dennis is incapable of complimenting him he doesnt have anything nice to say he doesnt respect Mac he doesnt even like Mac Mac just likes him and this is the foundation of their friendship no one likes Dennis everyone knows hes a scumbag psychopath but Mac admires and worships Dennis and values his opinions over anyone else which is how Dennis thinks everyone should see him he tolerates Mac because he keeps him anchored and from going to far or drowning while still validating Dennis’s chaos and faults so he simply states the first thing he notices about Mac in the moment which is that his hair looks small which it does because he greased it different (obviously making an effort to be noticed by Dennis) When Mac realizes hes just saying what he wants to hear and not being genuine he goes to walk away which is why Dennis does the speach to let him know that he is important not because hes badass or how he looks but because hes always has Dennis’s back”
I still don’t understand how this could apply to this person’s situation.
I feel like I would have to see your hair at the time if you happen to be able to find a picture (or a similar one).
A PTA mom once told me that she’d commit murder for my hair.
Considering the giver that is extremely high praise.
“Courage means being scared but doing it anyway” seems like a pretty succinct way of putting it I think.
My wierd compliment (if it can be called that) was when I was in high school English class. My teacher noticed how competent I was and how I was the only one to consistently raise my hand when he asked a question. He gave us a research paper to do and I got an F on it, exclusively because I fucked up the citations. He said the content was good, but he had to mark me way down due to improper citing. He said “I know you can do better than this.”
Is that a complement? Either way, I think about that interaction and scenario a lot even though I haven’t been in high school for well over a decade.
I feel like people mostly told me I could do better when I was begging for help, so I don’t know that I’m the right person to ask.
And idk I was thinking more like a cool movie scene or something to really pack in the “oomph,” but maybe. I definitely want to put a little more thought into it, the lack of thought being how I fucked it up last time.
A neighbor saw me walking barefoot to my mailbox and complimented me on my healthy feet.
Hackles went up thinking he was some foot fetishist who was going to get weird on me. Nope, just a medical person of some sort that works with feet a lot and I genuinely have healthy arches and mobile toes. At least I choose to believe that explanation he gave. Otherwise, I have to assume my neighbor is jerking it every time I walk outside.
Outside… Watching my neighbor get the mail… Straight up archin it… And by it… I mean my feets
I have to check people’s feet on admission, 50-50 to make sure there’s no contraband in their socks, but also genuinely to make sure there’s no gangrene or anything considering how many homeless diabetics come through. I’ve seen some feet alright. Nurses also frequently make “olive garden parmesan” jokes about the amount of skin flakes that come off (particularly older) people’s feet when you go to take their socks off. It’s so bad sometimes that you have to be careful not to breathe in or leave your mouth open when you do it because of how they disperse up into the air, except it can still get in your eyes, and you’re rarely expecting it.
Well, I don’t know that my feet are that great but they aren’t shedding any sort of cheese.
Obligatory: Please post feet pics. I’m a bit of a foot-doctor myself.
Hawt. I mean, you have very healthy toes or something. Bonus points for not needing woolen socks.
Stop. I can only get so erect.
I was in my early 20s and was visiting a friend’s house. His wife had a friend visiting that I’d never met. We were introduced and the first words she said to me were “Do you know your features are wasted on a guy?” and then went on to provide specific details.
We were married a year later. And that was 30 years ago.
Especially eyelashes. It’s bizarre to me that eyelashes are considered feminine when increased eyelash thickness is practically a male secondary sex characteristic. I’ve always wanted write a historical fiction femdom porn where the men dress like birds of paradise just for the principle of the thing.
Guy here: I have had multiple female friends and girlfriends tell me I have beautiful eyelashes that they are jealous of.
I still find it weird… like I understand it is a compliment and that they genuinely wish that they had such natural lashes…
Probably I just have too many core memories about being bullied for it by guys in high school and middle school.
Man what happened to men’s fashion? We went from heels and frills to grey on black and it’s awful.
THAT’S WHAT I’M SAYING.
I’m a switch and the maledom porn is on FIRE with hot Scottish werewolves and vampires flying helicopters. Then femdom has weird goblin men crawling on the floor eating shit. I’m sure that’s the lid for somebody’s extremely bizarre pot but it’s a bizarre disparity.
WHERE ARE THE PERIOD PIECES WITH HEELS AND ELABORATE WIGS???
Whats a switch
like to be a sub and a dom depending on my mood. I find it comes 3-6 month waves for the most part.
How do people like that thing where the lady steps on your balls in high heels? How could that ever feel good?
Blame this mother fucker from the revolutionary times for inventing the suit.
That’s so insanely true. Women have IMO much more fashion options than men. WR have jeans, sweater and T-Shirt(maybe a tank top).
“I like your butt hair.”
OK, that’s truely weird.
When I date, I seem to usually end up dating women who enjoy a hairy man.
Is it? Some like it hairy.
I had totally forgotten about it until now, but I got that same compliment.
A friend of mine said I had a very good hugging-body. I always pictured huggable dudes as big, but I was really lean back then. She said it was because my lanky body somehow automatically fit the shape of her hugs somehow.
“Friend,” huh? I’ve jumped the bones of someone I barely knew for that kind of thing.
She was my GFs bestie. Her BF was my friend. So yes, it was purely platonic.
“You’re very handsome for an Asian man.” - My girlfriend’s mom
Just one of those that confirms someone’s biases.
Gotta love those microaggressions
I mean I was hoping for more positive ones but I’m glad I gave you somewhere to do that and I hope doing so has brought you some peace.
A random black man at the pool yelled at me that I look exactly like Emilio Estevez. I didn’t know what to say
Had to Google him. My impression from Google images is that he’s a very real kind of attractive. Not that weird Hollywood looksmaxing photoshop on top of plastic surgery thing.
Your nose looks very well tended.
My ENT one week after my surgery.
Good home wound care is a rarity; excellent work.
I’m pretty sure it was intended as a compliment, but a little after I came out as trans I had a coworker tell me about a conversation she had with another coworker where she said about me, “They always dress better than us.”
That’s just the fear of not passing, lol. …or the contrast between that and the weird greasy egg look people get if the dysphoria impairs their self care. It was a really bizarre realization for me that the reason I liked dressing hyperfeminine on rare occasions was essentially the same as men who do drag as a costume. I got my tits chopped off and have no regrets but I am considering getting a pair just to wear on special occasions.
Coworker told me I look like Linus Torvalds. I really don’t, not even a little (other than being a white guy with glasses). But it was oddly flattering.
I knew who he was but had to look up what he looks like. Not bad tbh but I’m a whatever the hypersexual version of demisexual is, like where somebody is just vaguely cool and I’m like “mmmmmyes.”
“Daddy issues.” It’s called daddy issues.
Wait, so if I have that same thing as a cishet guy, does it mean I have mommy issues? Or… female focused daddy issues? I always knew my sexuality was needlessly complicated
I mean those terms are wildly outdated and I’m using them for comedic effect in this context but yeah that does imply something fucked with your attachment style at some point in childhood.
something fucked with your attachment style at some point in childhood
Ha, if that ain’t the truth with me - and people claim you can’t diagonse people over the internet from just their comments. Although I guess if I were to use the outdated terms, I’d definitely have both mommy and daddy issues in that case.
It’s actually relatively easy to use vague or general terms. There’s a lot of stuff I have to see to understand but if somebody on here told me they couldn’t shit I’d be able to guess pretty confidently that they’re constipated.
Wellp, I wish I was even 10% as smart as Torvalds. Smart = attractive in my book!
That is one facet my vagina will inexplicably just goo for, yes.
Ever written erotica? I bet you’d be good at it. And humor. Maybe…humorous erotica!
Right now I’m writing dnd tentacle erotica because 1) it’s been my on and off WIP for years and 2) I’ve particularly gotten back to it lately because I’m royally pissed off that the baldur’s gate illithid sex scene uses PIV when tentacle cunnilingus is the obvious thing that people who are sexually interested in illithids want to see and I would fucking know.
My other long term WIP is a gender-swapped / femdom pretty woman historical fiction in a 1900s where society evolved matriarchally and that explores how various social classes of men and women would present under that paradigm. (The other one includes similar concepts when they meet the drow).
I’m particularly fascinated in exploring ways in which those gender inequalities would present in (predominantly) negative ways (as any inequality does) such as men being expected to focus on their looks (think birds of paradise) and men being considered disposable in a similar but exaggerated way to how young men in patriarchal societies are sent to war over rich people’s squabbles.
I find a lot of femdom porn just makes the women act like men but while wearing corsets and heels and/or “sissifying” the men while I would prefer to explore the ways that a focus on appearances and makeup would be used to enhance / exaggerate a masculine gender presentation. Also I want to write about fucking pretty men.
I’ve read a few things by William Joseph Martin AKA Poppy Z. Brite that 1. I enjoyed and 2. Was surprised that I did.
I’m curious about Anne Rice’s pseudonym stories, but haven’t gotten around to them yet. I’m always way behind on my reading list.
The next time our group encounters a Mind Flayer, I will be suppressing a grin.
My dentist (who is also my friend) told me I have great saliva. Fortunately it was while I was getting my cleaning…not in random hang out conversation.
I stick with pretty neutral compliments towards others but probably in my own profession I’ve expressed over the top enthusiasm for remarkably good handwriting or very organized/complete records. I’ve gotten a couple of laughs out of clients because it’s semi-rare and it’s kinda odd to get excited about those things.
I feel like weird compliments are almost in my job description. I’ve complimented people for everything from a large, solid bowel movement to my depressed patient doing their laundry or a previously catatonic one playing cards. And a lot of complimenting people’s sleep habits, especially if they were manic as fresh hell the previous week.
