How many of you consider texting an ex that was an amicable breakup to see if they’d be up for a hookup.
I’mma leave this up since I’m late to the party on this one and there’s already a discussion, but in the future please remember rule #2 and phrase all post titles in the form of a question. This is like Jeopardy! ;)
On that note, if everyone is on board and copacetic, I say go for it and you deserve some mad props for pulling that off.
In my experience, drunk texting an ex is never a good idea, but it takes different strokes to move the world.
Awwww beans, thanks for your flexibility!
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The best thing you can do in this situation is masturbate and get it out of your system.
I have an anecdote about this very subject.
My ex tried to get back together with me after a 2.5 year on/off relationship where there was no intimacy and I’m pretty sure she had no intentions of ever putting out. The reason I didn’t trust her was that she straight-up ghosted me and cut me out of my life twice before, and the last time we broke up, I had the choice of either salvaging a vacation to Santorini into a five day solo trip or end up £1k out of pocket.
I was kind to her, I listened to her, I agreed to meet with her for a meal. We talked as if we didn’t have a two year absence hanging between us.
When it came time to pay the bill, I insisted we split it. Her face immediately dropped and the whole mood changed.
She blocked me afterwards.
Never text your ex, block and next…
I consider this fairly often, since I’m often drunk and plenty of my past relationships ended amicably. And, every single time that I sober up, I’m glad that I didn’t call/text any of my exes.
So don’t do that. Wait until you’re sober, and it’s daytime where you live, and you’re sexually satisfied, then think again if you should be texting them.
Have a wank and ask the question to yourself again, you just honry.
This. And have a snack before going grocery shopping. Two golden pillars of life
no, it’s never a good idea, not even out of desperation
I personally wouldn’t recommend it
Nope. Been there, done that, turned a relatively amicable breakup into a “you’re a piece of shit and don’t ever speak to me again” situation, ruining another friendship in the process. It’s a horrible, horrible idea.
It depends on how my wife gets on with the ex, I suppose.
So I can definitely imagine amicable breakups where there is still sexual contact (e.g. you don’t get along living together, but you’re both fine being fwb).
But if the first time you’re thinking about it is when you’re drunk, that’s not be a good sign. Sleep on it, then tomorrow think about what you want the “relationship” to look like going forward. If they’re likely to feel the same way (as a person that lives inside your computer, I don’t know them), you can ask them with a clear head (and not in a flirty way). Just respect their answer and don’t be a creep if they say no.
Don’t listen to this guy he’s a liar, he says he lives in your computer but he’s really in my phone.
My wife and I have hooked up with one of her exes, the reason they broke up was over whether or not to have kids, but unless you’re certain that they’ll not be mad don’t do it. Even my amicable exes I’d be annoyed if they only messaged to hook up
No. Walk it off, drink some water and go to bed. Nothing but evil can come from texting an ex.
Love the edit, OP
My ex wife did this last month. But she wasn’t drunk, nor was it just a text. I received a pic of her nude bottom half and the text: open if you want to visit.
I left it on “read”.
Amicable or not, this is just using the other person.
Nah, I’m not attracted to her anymore. We’re friends and it’ll stay at that. There are fundamental reasons for which we broke up and sexual compatibility was one of them. Sex with her was always “alright”. Never mind-blowing.
When I was younger and drunk, I’d text crushes and embarrass myself. None of them cared for me one bit. Since then, I have been drunk once and being rejected is one of the reasons.
