Haven’t been able to find one I’m confident about. Seems like they’ll all either ban me or have no reach/no momentum. Is it worth continuing to try this one, like they might actually not ban me? Is there a different one I should be trying instead?
Should I just immediately block everyone that replies in bad faith and tell them to try me on nostr so I’m not stopping them from talking to me but I also can’t get “banned for insults” ?
Just host your own instance.
Others are luckily always free to block you, but you do not need to worry about losing your account.
There is not really any downside to hosting your own instance either, thanks to federation, you get to participate in the wider Lemmy community as an equal member.
I am neither willing nor able to run a home server. I won’t last long on Lemmy unless server admins / other users allow me to
OK, so what you want is for other people to volunteer their time and money to keep an instance running. That, by itself, is honestly fine, and many people are happy to do so.
But you then also do not want to play by their rules. That part is not fine.