basically I’m the quiet one and even though she never was my supervisor, she acted like it. I was doing my job and she kept pestering me to help her with something she could do alone. I told her to wait, she kept calling me. I ignored her to do my job, she kept calling until I exploded:
First I said I don’t want to argue. She kept nagging me.
I yelled: leave me alone. She started a chain of expletives and called somebody. I don’t know who she called, but I assume somebody from management.
She’s the popular one and has been working there for 15 years already.
Back to today: I work in the same department, but another building, doing exactly the same, but it stings that nobody ever called me to ask for my side of the story. I feel disrespected and angry.
This is also a job I haven’t been happy for the last 2 months, before this conflict with this coworker, meaning I’ve been applying for positions, both for promotions within my company (office job instead of mechanical job) and for jobs elsewhere. After finding out the real story, after knowing how much power a popular person has over you, I only want to move on as soon as I can to another department or quit altogether.
The rational solution would be to focus on the office job within the same company away from that coworker and that department, but I’m not making much sense now…
It hurts.
Is this the right way of going through life?
It feels like she isn’t really responsible but you are for yelling at work.
I get it people can be irritating but you just can’t do that at work.
She likely called HR. Which is the right thing to do I would say.
Seems like you’ve been moved because they weren’t comfortable working with you. Many people might get fired tbh.
Shouting can be incredibly intimidating and it’s not something I’d want to deal with at work.
Rarely a good move my friend.
Agreed. Also if you don’t like her and was not fired than good for you! You were not happy anyway. You possibly may not get a transfer to other department but now you have more motivation to leave asap.
Yeah I agree with this. The right thing is to try and learn from the situation, what could you specifically have done differently regardless of the behaviour of other people? I think in this situation if someone that’s not your manager is trying to give you work your best recourse is probably to go to your own manager rather than yelling at the person.
As others have already said though, probably not a good idea to use anger or spite as a motivator for anything. Learn what you can from the situation and then do what’s best for you. In this case if this situation has blocked your progress and enjoyment at your current workplace it’s probably best to move on. Take what you learned and apply it going forward so you can better handle the situation if it comes back up again.