I’m 15 weeks and 1 day pregnant today. I’m also young (18), so this wasn’t planned or expected. When my boyfriend’s parents found out, they asked for a paternity test. On my parents’ advice, I agreed to it. Even though I have nothing to hide, it still felt humiliating.
If you empathise with the other side of the equation, it feels… understandable, right? And that might mute the negative feelings a bit. I mean, you know you’re your child’s mother while the dad just had to take it on trust up until recently, so wouldn’t you also want to be sure if you can, especially if you’re more on the anxious, “worst case scenario is the more plausible scenario!” side? It might have less to do with you and more to do with people’s inner fears, right?