Not that anyone cares, but I give up on lemmy

Everything I post, even if factually correct, is downvoted within seconds without explanation

Every thread is a circlejerk of the same 3 topics, I learn nothing on lemmy

I’ve been sending people here everywhere else I go on the internet but I regret it now, every time I log in here it just makes me feel like shit

I really believed lemmy could grow to be an alternative to reddit but it’s 100% not happening and this place is going to die

  • empireOfLove2@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    My guy if you can’t handle 2 or 3 comments being harassed by trolls or vote brigades (that don’t even do anything) you are gonna have a shit time literally anywhere on the internet

    Also instance and user block feature. Use it.

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      I dunno I was trying to find a community like this to make my final thread lol

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    Maybe you are gone already so won’t see this.

    But I actually agree with your central point that the politics and tech communities on Lemmy are full of strife and hostility that doesn’t need to be there. Actually most of the rest of it seems fine, but if you care about politics or tech, the quantity of dickheads get hard to ignore.

    My strategy has been to pretty aggressively cull some communities out of my subscriptions, and then make a little hobby out of attempting to disagree with some of the dickheads good naturedly in places I still subscribe to. Be the change you want to see in the world and etc. I don’t always succeed.

    I have to say, skimming over your user, that it looks to me like most of the time when you get downvotes, it’s not because of anything opinion based, but because you’re being hostile and dismissive of the other person’s point of view – sometimes like instantly right out of the gate, like “oh great I’m sure this thread is going to be FULL of people saying wrong opinion X which is obviously wrong”… which is exactly what you’re saying you’re sick of. IDK, man, you could be right or wrong. But being hostile about it and actively trying to pick fights with the other viewpoint even before anyone has shown up to express it seems like it’s not exactly gonna draw people gathering around you throwing roses and warmly embracing you if that’s what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for lots of fighting then sure but it sounds like that is not what you are after.

    Like I say I gave up on certain communities because of what you’re saying. I won’t say at all that your assessment is wrong. But also I do think there’s a certain degree to which (again just saying what I’ve seen looking back a little) you’ve created exactly the strife as well on your side.

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    Was this you?

    Don’t even pay attention to downvotes, they don’t really do anything unlike reddit

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    You have a few recent comments and a few older posts with downvotes, but most of your posts are overwhelmingly upvoted.

    The downvotes were earned, and maybe you should give more consideration to why people were disagfeeing with you on those few topics as there were replies that made the reason clear.

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        No im upset because there is literally nowhere on the internet worth spending time anymore, and i thought lemmy was the last stronghold

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          Someone gave you an honest, well thought out comment and you went to “there is no where left on the internet”.

          The saying stands. You you smell shit while walking around, there was probably some shit around. If you smell it all day, check your shoe.

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            I mean it’s almost universally shitty at this point

            Would give my left nut to go back to 1999

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          Maybe go outside. Get some fresh air and stop putting all of your interests in a social media platform.

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          You are telling on yourself here, what do you actually want?? An echo chamber? If so, they are EVERYWHERE.

          If you desperately need the entire goddamn web to be one giant echo chamber (specific to your preferences, no less), you can kindly fuck off. The internet is not for you.

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      Nah I actually just give up. I put effort into typing comments here and I realized it’s not worth it.

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        Why spend time on self reflection and improving one’s understanding when you can just quit instead?

        -Mediocrities

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          Speaking of self-reflection… You’re not wrong but you didn’t need to be so mean about it. Especially in this context.

          And that goes for all of you too.

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            Nah, I was nice at first but they don’t want to acknowledge the reality that most of their stuff is upvoted so this is the perfect context to mock them.

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              Why is it the perfect context to mock them? It seems like you just care more about getting upvoted than treating another human being with empathy.

              Self reflection is hard; I don’t begrudge you for shying away from it. But don’t act all high and mighty in that case.

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    Looking from PieFed I see this at your profile page : Joined: a year ago - Attitude: 91%
    That is a pretty high score. In your Lemmy settings you can disable downvotes or any votes, or choose to only see percentages. Some Lemmy instances like Reddthat.com have no downvoting enabled at all.

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    I think this just means that the honeymoon is over.

    In all seriousness, this is a common feature of any social media or human experience (hobby, relationship, etc) in general. When something is new and we are in the exciting discovery period, it seems great. After a while, the warts start to show. Some things begin to seem repetitive.

    Lemmy does not have as much content as larger and older social media. It has limitations. the way people vote content is different from other sites because the structure and culture of the platform is different.

    This is not to deny anyone’s experience. If you are no longer enjoying it or getting something out of it, take a break. That’s good advice for any social media.

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    I care. Sorry to see you go. The fediverse can still grow, I suggest you at least stay to lurk and see. It’s just not happening at the pace we were all hoping for at the time. Is reddit really that much better? You’re not an asshole for being honest

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    I guess it depends, personally I find it way better than the alternatives. Sure you have people with different opinions but thats a good thing, just block the trolls and assholes and carry on.

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    I’m in no position to tell you to stay or go, after all it’s your life to lead, nobody else’s…

    Having said that, I can’t help but notice from taking a rather cursory glance at your post history that most of your posts are pretty well up-voted.

    The only posts where you seem to be heavily down-voted are political posts, which by their very nature will invite disagreement - this is especially true when the posts you’re making touch upon rather controversial/inflammatory topics.

    And if that’s what you’re complaining about being down-voted for, then you’ve really only yourself to blame for inviting that disagreement into your life.

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    Not sure about hostile, but I swear I see more downvotes these days that I used to!

    Used to be you got downvoted for being a dick. Now you get downvoted if someone doesn’t like you. Just like Reddit I guess?

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    Is it surprising to you that posting this right wing shit got you down voted? Denying the lived experiences of residential school survivors?

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      How is that right wing? That article is factually correct

      Nobody is denying residential school survivors, the fuck are you talking about? This is exactly my problem with this place, and your misinformation is already being upvoted