I’ve been saying, “I was born without a uterus”, which so far seems to answer honestly without directly outing myself as trans.

Any thoughts on how to best navigate this? Ideally without disclosing I’m trans 😅

  • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    6 days ago

    I was transfered to a specialist to start a new non-trans related medication. We had a zoom meeting and went through some test results before asking “is there any chance your pregnant?”

    I laughed and said that wasn’t possible. She looked confused and started reading something on her other monitor. She muttered “Progesterone…?” and looking confused before turning back to me. “Okay Ma’am, just to be clear, you do NOT have a uterus correct?”

    😂

    • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      7·
      6 days ago

      ha, I got the “born without a uterus” line from a nurse doing my intake before my vaginoplasty- one of the nurses was doing what I assume was a pregnancy test and I think the other nurse realized I might be trans, so she awkwardly asked me if I was born without a uterus, while giving the other nurse a kind of corrective, “hey, listen up” look. The other nurse did treat me differently after that, and seemed visibly disgusted when I affirmed- but I think it was the nurse’s look that keyed it as being trans, because I was in a hospital that sees a lot of trans patients they had a kind of code or way of handling that which I’m not seeing elsewhere.

      So I’ve just started to use that- I was born without a uterus, it’s true and it doesn’t necessarily out me.

      Müllerian agensis is another way a woman could be born without a uterus, but I don’t know what the most probable explanations for a missing uterus might be (1 in 4,000 - 5,000 is the frequency of Müllerian agenesis, a lot less than trans women which is more like 1 in 100 - 200).