The entire situation is fucked, and is about me trying to get an abusive TTI facility investigated. But everything I’m reading online suggests that my life is pretty much over.
The entire situation is fucked, and is about me trying to get an abusive TTI facility investigated. But everything I’m reading online suggests that my life is pretty much over.
I have. I’ve spent a whole fucking year trying.
My ex got to torture me and kick me out of my house, there was no “free legal consultation” then.
I am so fucking sick of people pretending that help exists, and it makes me want to off myself publicly so people know it doesn’t and they’ll shut the fuck up. The US is fucking broken.
No they wont lol. Killing yourself will accomplish literally nothing. In fact, it would make things worse cause of all the fuckers that want you dead. Keep living to spite them, it’s what I do.
Thing is, legal help does exist in many places. Most of it is geared towards afab people experiencing partner abuse though. That’s why people ask for location before giving advice - some places aren’t advanced enough to recognize that abuse is far ranging and widespread
You dont deserve to be brushed off, or kicked out of your home
Regardless of whether I deserved it it already happened. There’s help for AFAB people who are cis, the rest of us are shit out of luck. I’m more worried about the VPO because that leads to not being able to get a job anymore
I’m afab and nb, and I’ve had free legal help (in my case it wasn’t even a partner, just a roomie). I’m not sitting here trying to deny your situation, but you need to look at it from a different angle to get the help you need.
Give the very bare minimum info when you message a lawyer, because most automatically screen. Bare info is your name and the other party name, plus the type of suit. If they have time for you they will let you know, sometimes they’ll refer you.
I hear you on the job fears, especially because the US is signaling a reduction of force. It’s valid, and I’m really sorry you are experiencing this. Holy shit, that sucks
Bruh I’ve already called dozens of lawyers.
AFABs don’t mean shit where I live, we have the highest incarceration right in the states for people defending themselves against abuse.
I’m just going to kill myself I think. All of the advice is shit I’ve already done, now I’m unhirable and there is no help.
What is keeping you there? I know it costs money to move, but. People get paid under the table everywhere.
You can rebuild if you want. I know it takes work. Ask me how I fucking know it takes work.
What you are going through sucks. Like I said I’m not denying that. There are ways out though
I’ve been actively suicidal before and it sucks, so I’m not gonna give you any “permanent solution to a temporary problem” bullshit. But what I learned in my extensive research is that it’s really hard to effectively kill yourself. If anything goes sideways, it’s pretty likely that you not only won’t die but your life will be way way worse. You think you’re unhirable now, just wait until you have a hypoxic brain injury.
As the kids on tiktok were saying for a bit: suicide is cringe, don’t kill yourself
Do you have anyone in your life you trust to talk to about this?
Why can’t you get a job anymore?
Because VPOs show up on background checks.
I was kinda hoping maybe someone here would know how that worked, but all the advice is “find a lawyer! There’s totally lawyers that’ll help!” When there has never been a lawyer. They don’t give a shit. They want money. And sure maybe y’all have friends and shit that’ll fucking help but I don’t have a fucking bed. I can barely keep food in the fridge.
But yeah, this is what I get when I ask for help. “Help exists, you’re just too much of a dumb fuck to try doing all the things you’ve already done!”
Tell me to call 988 again so I can be sexually assaulted even more! That totally helped the last time! Tell me to use the money I don’t have to move to magical pixie land Europe or Canada, because I totally can afford a visa and get a job instantly there! Tell me to see a therapist I can’t afford! Tell me to see a lawyer I can’t afford! Tell me to sit at a food bank for hours instead of trying to find work! Life just works out perfectly! When you say “hey this person molested me” you totally get believed and someone does something about it!
The reality is I’ve spent three decades of my life begging for help, I’ve tried every fucking thing suggested here and it didn’t fucking work. My life doesn’t matter, it hasn’t mattered, and I’m just exhausted of being gaslit by being told that if I just call the fairytale lawyers and therapists everything will be fixed!