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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • I have large feet for my height (163cm, women’s US 12) and tend to just wear men’s shoes now. I have never had someone notice my feet are atypically sized, but it still feels like I’m wearing clown shoes if I wear Chucks or other canvas shoes.

    You’ll want to avoid pointed toes, and narrow styles, these are designed to elongate. Any kind of heel rise will shorten the length of your footprint, I personally prefer chunky heels to balance it out. I tend to wear moto style boots the most, just to throw a style name out there

    There are actually more unisex styles in men’s larger sizes out now than when I first started doing this (about 15 years ago). When I still wanted femme shoes I ended up buying from people who custom made drag queen shoes. It’s still uncommon to find cute heels in my size in the wild.

    Edit: I forgot to mention that all the style mags in the 00s (at least) were talking about elongating the leg-toe line, because psychologically it demonstrates dominance and power. (please remember the opening to The Devil Wears Prada for an example xD) So if/when you have the energy and desire for it, own it. None of the other women in your vincinity have that kind of power play ability!





  • In the 00s my uncle was in a position where Monsanto was suing him for not holding up his end of the contract, because he had a bad crop year. Anyway, my grandparents bailed him out by financing a lawyer who settled for him, and it really didn’t fix the problem at all. He still lost his farm, my grandparents were no longer wealthy because they kept trying to help him, and the uncle died a couple years later to cancer (probably driven by stress). They bailed him out because they were afraid he’d kill himself over the farm, and it took him out anyway









  • I looked up names with meanings that spoke to me, then when I had a few I asked my bestie to help me narrow them down. She also made a gender neutral nickname out of my first name, which is what I usually go by. I love that I get to use a name she picked!

    You might like my middle name, it means “island goddess”, but most English speaking people have no idea how to pronounce it lol


  • I have problems processing sensations, especially auditory and light. I tend to feel that nothing is worth my attention if it’s outside specific categories. I was walking much sooner than my peers, but refused to speak until after I was a toddler (this is when my little brother began speaking). I have extremely black and white thinking about everything. Eye contact is brutal. I’m very monotone, especially for someone afab. I get stuck on words and need to repeat them until they’ve become meaningless. I usually under-react to things. My life is guided by fear.


  • The one positive for trying to get my neurodivergance diagnosed is that I’m not actually autistic - I have ADHD and a few other disorders that made it look like I’m autistic.

    Ahdh can be medicated, the other dx’s need therapy but I’m not as stuck as I thought would be.

    I’m not saying autism is bad and that there isn’t help for it, just that I’ve been able to find help specifically for my issues after diagnosis