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The one positive for trying to get my neurodivergance diagnosed is that I’m not actually autistic - I have ADHD and a few other disorders that made it look like I’m autistic.
Ahdh can be medicated, the other dx’s need therapy but I’m not as stuck as I thought would be.
I’m not saying autism is bad and that there isn’t help for it, just that I’ve been able to find help specifically for my issues after diagnosis
This already happened last time dipshit was president
Second opinions matter if you can swing them
Had a doc tell me I have a “mystery disease” four months before another at a larger specialty clinic gave me a tentative dx.
It sucks needing to travel for many reasons, but at least she has seen this issue before
I’m not a cis man, but every man I’ve dated has had “friends”, but not people they can really talk to. Like, one guy I dated had a really big social circle and they regularly had gaming events. But he didn’t text or talk to anyone outside of planning and going to those events. Others had maybe one friend that they hung out with outside of work.
It is sad. And it was jarring when I was young, because I had lots of friends I could turn to on a bad day or for something more serious. It makes me so angry with “the patriarchy”, because it isn’t just keeping women down, it’s also hurting and sometimes killing men.
I had a cat die a very painful and sad death right in the veterinarian’s parking lot. I was completely devastated, but my poor boyfriend kept trying to hold back his tears because he “needed to be strong” for me. Bitch no, cry with me, that was super heavy. I’m going to carry that death with me until I die, and not just because my cat didn’t deserve that. It’s not fair for men to have this expectation that they need to hold back expressing emotion so they appear strong. (that particular ex also has a fear of dying, so he really needed to and should have felt free to express himself at that time)
The sheer number of men who suddenly have no support in their life because their relationship has ended, that soon struggle with suicidal thoughts should really point to the first thing you said. Men and women are socialized differently as children and this is one of the most common results when we reach adulthood. It will take an enormous shift in society and ingrained values to fix that
That second point, yeah, women don’t need to get married to survive now. My grandmother couldn’t have her own bank account when she was a young adult, and banks would have laughed her out of town if she wanted a mortgage. My parents got married young because that was still kind of expected, especially in rural America. I haven’t dated in years, because it’s frustrating, and I have been able to, and lucky enough, to buy a home on my own finances. That’s not high standards, it’s just that I didn’t need to get hitched to have financial stability
I met two people with my dead name and a third who used the nickname I used to (think Christina/Tina) all in the same job. I thought it would be weird, but I realized that I never identified with those names, I just used them because it was expected.
I imagine it’s different for other people, but that’s how it has been for me
That’s kid rock
There are programs for people with felonies to find jobs, typically found under “re-entry” or “second chance”. They’re often sucky, poorly paid jobs though.
As much as I love this idea, especially the suggestion to place it like a parking ticket, I have less dexterity in my hands than I do in my legs lol
Maybe I need to befriend a few neighborhood urchins xD
This happens where I live and I keep wondering how crazy I would be to complain about it. The parking spots aren’t long enough for trucks, so they back in and completely cover the sidewalk. I need to use mobility devices to get around and usually have to fight my way through the grass because there isn’t enough room for my walker. I’m not looking forward to this fight when snow is on the ground
I don’t see my plan on the tmo site, so I guess it’s grandfathered. I use about 80gb a month (often close to 100) and their highest tier pre-paid is the same price ($60/mo) and limits after 50gb.
What is keeping you there? I know it costs money to move, but. People get paid under the table everywhere.
You can rebuild if you want. I know it takes work. Ask me how I fucking know it takes work.
What you are going through sucks. Like I said I’m not denying that. There are ways out though
I’m afab and nb, and I’ve had free legal help (in my case it wasn’t even a partner, just a roomie). I’m not sitting here trying to deny your situation, but you need to look at it from a different angle to get the help you need.
Give the very bare minimum info when you message a lawyer, because most automatically screen. Bare info is your name and the other party name, plus the type of suit. If they have time for you they will let you know, sometimes they’ll refer you.
I hear you on the job fears, especially because the US is signaling a reduction of force. It’s valid, and I’m really sorry you are experiencing this. Holy shit, that sucks
Thing is, legal help does exist in many places. Most of it is geared towards afab people experiencing partner abuse though. That’s why people ask for location before giving advice - some places aren’t advanced enough to recognize that abuse is far ranging and widespread
You dont deserve to be brushed off, or kicked out of your home
My neighbor looks a little bit worse for wear and is just a couple years older than him. My neighbor is a raging alcoholic though.
Some people age faster than others, but for sure alcohol and no sunscreen will age us faster
Are you saying I should take those bibles from the Jackasses that stand in front of my university science building doors every semester? Maybe ask for the whole box? I wonder if bibles are recyclable lol
I don’t know if it can be fixed. Nearly everyone I know irl is refusing to watch the news and are instead burying their heads in sand, waiting till the next election. And these aren’t like Facebook zombies, they’re intelligent people with well developed critical thinking skills. The barrage of bad news made them shut everything out, and now they are shocked at the things that do slip through to them.
The friends that are planning to be safe spaces don’t have a single clue about opsec. It’s admirable they want to do that, but they’ve already been compromised and dont realize it
My post paid tmo plan is $60/mo. Why tf is a prepaid $60 too? Maybe I’m out of touch, but prepaid used to be like the most bare bones plans available
I have problems processing sensations, especially auditory and light. I tend to feel that nothing is worth my attention if it’s outside specific categories. I was walking much sooner than my peers, but refused to speak until after I was a toddler (this is when my little brother began speaking). I have extremely black and white thinking about everything. Eye contact is brutal. I’m very monotone, especially for someone afab. I get stuck on words and need to repeat them until they’ve become meaningless. I usually under-react to things. My life is guided by fear.