I think part of my hopelessness is that I am realizing hrt has not done anything to my face, I figured this out since I am still pretty recognizable. the only thing hrt has done for me is give me boobs, which usually results in hey dead name, you should loose some weight when i am recognized in public. I just feel hopeless and I want this nightmare to end.
I think you need to come out to those people. It’s scary, and in the immediate-term very bad, but after that… you get recognition. Not being recognized as yourself suuuuucks.
This helped my friend so much. She finally told me and a few other people what was going on, and we all kind of went “oh, (dead name), wait. No. What’s your new/real/we don’t know what to say name?”, and we had a conversation about it all.