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Then why did you call that take braindead? They didn’t say that all of Britain’s exhibits are for stolen artifacts, just how their biggest exhibits are the stolen ones.

they’re not stolen because internet meme, they’re stolen because many of those artifacts are literally taken by colonists who have taken the land.

the people who know you are not going to start addressing you differently unless you come out to them and they’re respectful.

while i won’t argue people don’t care at all for looks, i’ve seen some people who would be conventionally considered very ugly establish long lasting loves because they are genuinely wonderful to be around. it also helps to try to be around other folks like you. i had a terrible time dating until i did so in trans circles. i am now in a polycule every partner i have is trans and we’re all fucking weird and most of us are at least a bit gross. you don’t even have to entirely cure your depression or complete your transition to find the people are out there, you just have to find some people with things in common. and to be blunt, you calling yourself genetically cursed is akin to much of what incels say. you gotta get out of that headspace. it’s not good for you.

voice training, posture, general attire, makeup etc also all contribute. my mother has consistently been misgendered throughout her life as a cis woman because she doesn’t wear makeup, has a particular posture from working out/physical labor, and wears like jeans and masc-cut t-shirts. all of these things can be changed and posture nor voice training require you have money if you already have internet access.

HRT doesn’t fix people, they just often have the motivation to work on themselves after being on HRT. Not everyone gets that motivation just from HRT, though. It took realizing who in my life I’d be sending down the same road for me to end up committing myself to an inpatient mental clinic rather than ending my own life. This was also after two years of HRT - it very much did not fix me, but in retrospect it definitely contributed. That being said, it was only one piece of the puzzle. Your betterment may look different, but ultimately it will have to start with how you perceive yourself - not just in terms of how “womanlike” you may be, but also in regards to your own personal narrative, how you appraise your own value as an individual. Best of luck.

“Nice girl hair!”

Hey, you look great in this photo, but a real quick tip about mirror photos like these - it genuinely helps a lot to look into the camera in the mirror rather than to look at the phone to make sure the picture looks good while taking it, or at least to look elsewhere in the mirror. It gives a much better impression of your typical expression, unless your typical expression is in fact looking down with your eyelids mostly closed - but I say this from the perspective of someone who’s eyes are usually drawn forward.