Trying to think of a way to bring her to be comfortable in stimulating her body in different ways… What if you’d masturbate by watching her and for you she just mildly rubs her body gently. Then eventually you can ask her to fake rub her vulva to turn you on. Kinda making it her job in a way and associating self rubbing with pleasure. Hopefully that makes sense.
40 / M / Canada
I have the same impression as you do but looking at the early answers, looks like Europe is a bit younger. I hope we are wrong, I’d rather have a very widespread demography to have more diverse opinions.