I’m in two sanctuary states I think I’d rather not go through the hassle and assume everything is going to be fine. NYC is safe, right?

Yep I’m using Seamly2D (formerly Valentina) for my 2D stuff, but 3D is also of concern and I’m using Onshape for that (although maybe Fusion 360 might work better I’m not really sure). Blender seems unsuited for my task.

I like skirts made of stretch fabric because I can wear an XS-size skirt and it gives me very comfortable compression and still fits.

Umm akshually the pattern for a circle skirt is an annulus (I only know this because I’m collaborating with chatgpt to geometrically describe parametric patterns for modeling my clothes in CAD before I make them)

I post a few pics of myself online and people respond saying I’m cute and very cute.

is there a link? I don’t see anything to click, just a picture.

somehow this isn’t blurred as nsfw in my Lemmy client, Thunder.

don’t use the matrix.org homeserver please, it’s not very free.

sounds like you have two conflicting needs and you’ll probably have to compromise somewhere in between if you want to try to satisfy both needs. Maybe tucking will be the compromise? If yes, there’s some panties available to help.

maybe a different country with a completely different medical bureaucracy would be better for you?

can someone repost and/or summarize the article here in the comments section?

Medical transition sounds very daunting for me, I’m avoiding that step. Why? genetic complications : my grandmother died in response to an estrogen-based menopause treatment, but she was negative for the one genotype that is known to cause this reaction. So I have a 25% chance of inheriting a genotype that is not known, but i know it has caused a relative to die of cancer, in response to estrogen. So I need to consult a doctor that specializes in hereditary (breast) cancer, but also consult with an endocrinologist who knows about estrogen-related cancers… that’s a lot of work and if I skip it I have a 25% chance of dying within a few years of starting treatment.

I do like HPMOR but it’s a fanfic and enjoying that fiction simply does not financially benefit anyone in a monetary relationship with JK Rowling.

my family has gendered last names so I’m using my sister’s last name instead of my legal last name. They’re similar but have different endings.

The Queen died, and I liked her sense of formal fashion, so I decided to take her name. There’s plenty of people named after the Queen.

is anyone else unable to load the three other replies to this comment?

I’d start with getting a OpenWRT-compatible router and flash the OpenWRT firmware onto it. You do NOT need to replace the modem. Looks like you already did that but with Tomato. Honestly, nevermind then, this comment is redundant.

It took me about 2 hours to do the whole setup with a tplink Archer wifi router hardware, I got it for about $40 used on Ebay.

I avoid FFS not because I can’t afford, but because I don’t think the pain and stress of getting a surgery there is worth the change in appearance. My planned alternative is kigurumi.

This is extra difficult with languages where first person conjugated verbs are gendered. E.g. past tense in Russian.