Triasha-she/her

This is so hard.

First, it’s OK to distance yourself from “I love you, but I can’t support what you are doing.”

My mother was devastated when I came out. But after seeing that I was serious about transition and she could either get on the boat or be left behind, she decided that she should offer some help with clothes and dressing nice. She introduced me as her daughter these days. She hasn’t said anything shitty in over half a decade.

Second isolation is ok for safety, but not a long term strategy. Be nice to people, ask for help when you can, and you should meet women that will help you. Seek out queer spaces and navigate them as best you can. A trans woman taught me 95% of everything I know about makeup. My wife taught me nails when we started dating.

I’m sorry you are being hurt. It’s not fair and you don’t deserve it. Feel free to pm me if you ever want to chat, or vent, or share your stories. I love yo tell my own.

I like the change. Both more inclusive and more exact.

Why would you be faking it?

What evidence do you have that you are trans?

What evidence do you have that you are cis?

Do you want to be trans?

Those are the starting questions?

My dad fell out of my life a couple decades ago and hasn’t made much effort to be a part of it since.

I think it’s great that you are spending time to learn about your daughter’s… Queer forrunners? Whatever we are to her.

Truly, I hope she doesn’t really need us. Supportive parents gives her the best chance for that, I think. I hope that by the time she is leaving school and building her own life and identity, being trans is just a tiny part of her, and barely even noticable, because the fear and the barriers that we face today have fallen away.

I hope she learns about trans day of remembrance from a history book, because we don’t need to hold it anymore.

I doubt it, but I so desperately hope that’s the world she grows up to explore.

I like the change.