TommySalami

Not that you asked, but my advice is to shoot your shots wherever you find them. If the odds are bad either way, might as well aim for the jobs that will keep you sane and make things better for yourself and others.

You’re not weak. It’s genuinely a dehumanizing, exhausting experience that seems to get worse year after year. I’m barely in my 30s, I’ve been laid off twice and had to relocate once. Each search was worse than the last.

There is a gospel passage about how much will be expected of those whom have been given much. I’ve always heard this interpreted as how church leaders will be judged harshly in the afterlife. I wish this and hell were true, just for the sheer shock and disbelief of all the hypocritical religious leaders who’ve done so many terrible things and continued to preach hate.

I’m generally not a “both sides” person, but if anything has become obvious in the last several months/years, the majority of establishment Dems are just as bad when it comes to holding onto power. RBG, Feinstein, Pelosi, Biden. MAGA has been cultivating their next generations, and now the Dems seem convinced they need to move right despite seemingly everything and everyone telling them they abandoned the working class and the economy sucks regardless of the stock market.

I have the soundcore liberty 4, and I also really like it. Way better than the raycons I had.

Beast Wars is my GOAT Transformer series. I figured it was nostalgia, but I rewatched during the pandemic and it honestly held up better than I remember. Even the weird early digital animation is impressive in context. So many interesting characters and motivations, too. And the sweetest extra on top is Megatron’s dialogue. Yeeeeess!

Sweetened, doesn’t particularly matter with what. Though I think my favorite has been a honey/citron/ginger tea from Costco. No caffeine, but the flavor was immaculate.

That’s a wild question, cause for me and most of the people I know, a fantasy version of myself with double my income would mean not worrying about groceries, maybe a short trip out of the country once a year, being able to pay off debts, and affording some medical procedures that we’ve been putting off. Maybe saving some money so my kid isn’t homeless in a few decades. Not some life of leisure.

To answer your question, though, it would be categorically worse.

From what I’ve read, biological parentage can get preference even if the child had been living in another household. You’d think what you said would be the case, but state legal opinions are not a thing I would be super trusting of if I were in that position given how our rights are in a precarious position, to say the least. IANAL, but everyone should write a will. That’s better than letting lawyers and judges guess at what you want.

Not an expert, but there is a lot less ground to legally challenge the partnership if a couple is married. If a couple isn’t married and one of them suddenly dies without a will or some sort of similar situation, the deceased’s family can fight for everything from how their funeral is executed, custody of children, or even control of finances. Obviously it would involve some sort of legal intervention, but marriage would supercede any familial relationships in most cases. I’m not sure how common it is, but I’ve definitely heard stories about this in gay relationships where estranged family ends up getting legal guardianship of children because the parents weren’t officially married and one died.

I’m married and, though I don’t think I can numerate all the ways, we are definitely more financially stable than we were when we were just dating. Even just the convenience of being able to do certain legal and medical stuff on my partner’s behalf makes a big difference. And that’s isn’t to say it’s for everyone, but it is worth investigating if you have specific concerns.

Rock/Ground/Steel gym leader. There are a lot of chonky lizard bois and I am going to love them all, even as a 12 yr old destroys my shit with a monotype starter.

The feeling that things might get better.