Yeah, this thread and many others shines a light on a lot of folks who are (and maybe with good reason) very bitter. My folks weren’t perfect, but I understand life is a difficult thing and there is no manual. My mom at times will apologize to my brother and I for not doing well at times, but from my point of view she’s got two good sons who are well positioned in life, and that’s about all you can ask for.

And as many others have said in this thread, becoming a parent shines the light on you. And not that one has no right to judge as the child in the relationship, I think having the perspective of the parent can be difficult. I constantly try to remind myself how I felt at my child’s age, and sometimes it leads to a battle within to do what’s right, because “what’s right” isn’t always this crystal clear thing.

Kids are difficult. Life is difficult. We’re all just trying to plod our way through. Nobody here is a billionaire, many of us need to balance working and our family, and the lack of sanity both bring. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but also guide in such a way that I’m not doing them a disservice later.