I’m a 27 year old single mother and I have a 12 year old son. Recently he’s been knocking on my door in the middle of the night because he can’t sleep and he asks to sleep with me. I’ve been letting him since neither of us really have a problem with it and it’s kind of nice not having to sleep alone every night. However, I’ve heard and seen some things online that seem controversial about co-sleeping with a child past a certain age. I definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development, so I guess what are your thoughts?

  • Flickerby@lemm.ee
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    14 hours ago

    I can sympathize, I was a nightmare for my parents growing up not being able to sleep. Though I usually was caught reading or playing video games instead. ADHD can be very hard to deal with and I wish you the best of luck

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      12 hours ago

      I was sleeping in my parents room, on the floor, till I was embarassingly old.

      Turns out I had/have Tinnitus and found the background noise of whatever show they were falling asleep to made it infinite easier to sleep.

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        12 hours ago

        Holy shit I feel like I had a similar kind of issue and I’ve never heard anyone talk about it before. Childhood tinnitus and sleeping issues. Literally never had anyone else write anything remotely similar to my experience.

        I slept on the floor of my sibling’s room instead of my parents. I have always suspected that I had a form of tinnitus even as a young child. I would get paranoid that the sounds of the tinnitus were some other entity in the room and get scared. You know how like you can sometimes “hear” when someone behind you even though they don’t make a sort of obvious sound? That’s how mine has always been for me. For me, it wasn’t that I needed noise to drown it out. It was that having someone else in the room made me feel safe enough to sleep.

        My tinnitus if that’s what it really is has always constantly and incessantly warbled in intensity and directionality, which propogates the feeling of something suddenly being there. It’s not the classical “eee” noise that people think of when they think tinnitus.

        I remember as a child thinking when people would talk about the “sounds of silence” that they just meant this noise lol.