I’m looking for a new instance since lemm.ee is closing by the end of the month. What’s a good instance to be on these days?

I’m looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

  • Ledericas@lemm.eeEnglish
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    2 days ago

    with the LEMMY.EE coming to an end there definitely will be multiple accts to diff instances just in case one gets offed again. definitely avoid the the triad of tankie instances, plus some that pretty political views, unless your into that kind of thing.

  • Nusm@yall.theatl.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    My recommendation would be to find a local instance - one that’s closest to you - and sign up for that. I’m not in Atlanta, but I am in Georgia, so I signed up for the yall.theatl.social instance (the server is in Atlanta), and I couldn’t be happier. It’s a smaller instance, but I converse regularly with the admins when I have a question or a problem, and they are accessible and always open to suggestions.

    I like it so much that I also use the theatl.social Mastodon instance as my main Mastodon as well. I throw them a few bucks every month to help with costs, and I’m happy to do it.

    I would agree with those who say smaller instances are the way to go.

    • darksiderbun@lemmy.caEnglish
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      2 days ago

      Yeah. Smaller instances for sure. I’m in Canada so I went with lemmy.ca and I’ve never had any issues and everything is just peachy 😌

  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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    2 days ago

    You dont need to limit yourself to just one, feel free to diversify your presence.

    But for a real answer: The smaller ones; The smaller the more respecfull they feel.

    Though more users does demonstrate capabilities. Not every server is fast or stable.

  • Kierunkowy74@piefed.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    You might like https://piefed.social.

    • Usual controversial instances (hexbear, grad, hilariouschaos…) are banned here,
    • Posts and replies with many downvotes are collapsed by default,
    • You can individually block any (whole) instance, community, users and linked domains. You can also filter the keywords,
    • Any much-downvoted user will appear with red warning sign
  • FundMECFS@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Since you mention you have no real opinions about lemm.ee. You were just on there by chance.

    I’ll propose you the style of blahaj which is to have downvotes disabled, its quite a different way to interact with lemmy, maybe a bit weird to get used to. But it feels much less hostile. And it fosters a good culture of just ignoring shitty takes and replies.

    As far as “no extremes” you mentioned you prefer, blahaj blocks lemmygrad and hexbear (ultra authoritarians) and any far right instance (think hilariouschaos)

  • MemmingenFan@feddit.orgEnglish
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    2 days ago

    If you ask 5 different fediverse users about their favorite instance you will get 15 different answers.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      2 days ago

      Good good. I hope that’s the case. I’d prefer to see the variety of instances that people enjoy. :)

  • LostXOR@fedia.io
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    2 days ago

    I’ve had a great experience here on fedia.io. It’s a smaller instance, and it is running Mbin instead of Lemmy, but everything federates over so you get the same content. Might feel a bit weird switching from Lemmy, but if you feel like it I’d recommend giving it a try. :)

    We’re also defederated from Hexbear, lemmy.ml, and Lemmygrad if that’s a factor.

    • Fitik@fedia.io
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      2 days ago

      Enjoy it as well, I also love how reliable it is, it’s been around longer than software it’s currently running(Mbin)

  • CarbonIceDragon@pawb.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    I’ve been pretty happy with how the instance I use has been run thus far, but it is focused around furries, so it won’t be something most people outside that subculture like I expect. Still, the fandom is big enough that someone in it looking for an instance might look at this thread, so I mention it anyway.

  • scytale@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    2 days ago

    .zip has the closest instance policies to .ee. A lot of .ee refugees moved there (me included). Some also moved to piefed if you’re considering that.

  • nimmo@social.nimmog.uk
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    2 days ago

    I’ve found that self-hosrinf my own instance has been a very good way of keeping the number of bits, spammers and people that like to take things to the extremes at a nice and consistent 0.

    Sure, self hosting your own instance isn’t for everyone but it’s definitely doable and I’m satisfied with my experiences so far.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      2 days ago

      I like the idea of self hosting; I’m just concerned about being defederated by an admin/mod that’s taken things the wrong way.

      I’m not a spicy person, but I’m sure I’ve upset some people, some how. I say that, but I know I’ve upset at least one person online.

      The person stated they do a thing, and me being curious, I asked them a question about it because I wanted to know more. They replied with a really angry message. It sounds preposterous but it really was as benign as that. I’ve seen the same person respond to others in the same unreasonable manner. It’s this type of person that I’m concerned about.

      • hendrik@palaver.p3x.deEnglish
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        2 days ago

        I don’t think you need to worry about that too much. It’s a very uncommon character trait for constructive people. Alike people who run a successful instance. Most of them are nice. And the very few who aren’t, or are very agitated/argumentative will inevitably run into issues with other people as well… So there isn’t much to loose.