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        Yea. There is “having personal tastes” but a lot of these comments are just straight up judgmental of other people’s choices of personal expression and using this post as an excuse to espouse some pretty harmful rhetoric.

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    Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I’ve had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.

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    Ultra low body fat, e.g. high fashion models, body builders. You don’t see it that much in real life, but it’s pretty heavily promoted in media.

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        Yeah, and especially mental health. Not many people are really going to go that far (it’s a LOT of effort), but it’s so unattainable that even fit people often don’t feel good about themselves. Especially if you add all the makeup and doctored photos.

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    I’ve always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that’s normal enough

    My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They’re so cumbersome, I truly don’t understand how people love with them

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      This response makes me take back what I said about your intent in my other comments. This thread is gross dude.

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      You and me on both counts dude, fuuuuuu—

      So disgusting. And it looks sooo fake, like they don’t even make an effort to look real. They are thick as a bear claw bruh, looks like some fungus growing under them talons, Jesus. Get that nasty shit out of here.

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      I truly don’t understand how people love with them

      Very carefully.

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      welcome to the evening news, man creates thread so he can bitch about Black women. more at 5 when he phones back in to say how he’s entitled to his opinion.

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          The racist is the one bitching about long nails, a predominant standard of beauty in black culture, and how much it makes them uncomfortable.

          Like, no one needs to hear your judgement of someone else’s choice of personal expression. Ever heard the phrase “ain’t got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? This is where that applies.

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            Long nails are a thing with women of all races. I wouldn’t call it predominantly black. I’d call it predominantly tacky.

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        Truly ironic people are trying to say you’re the racist for calling someone else out for espousing racist rhetoric.

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    I inherently detest the concept of a “beauty standard”. Something so subjective to each individual experience as “beauty” shouldn’t have a standard, and a mentality or social culture that tries to establish or reinforce them is something I believe to be highly problematic.

    Like in this very post, all the people who are admonishing body modification (injections, implants, piercings, tattoos, etc…). That has been a thing humans have done since ancient times. It is just a form of personal expression, there is nothing inherently wrong with the practice itself. It is the social expectations that makes those things appear uncomfortable at first glance instead of just a different but equally valid form of personal expression. A lot of the comments around them are very judgmental of the assumed reasons behind doing it, though, and it is because of societal “beauty standards” that people behave and think this way.

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      Yep, although I’m getting used to them over time. It still seems to be confined to people who are very “alt”.

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    5 year olds dressed up to look like a 19 year old going out for a one night stand. Kids are cute, and I was never into one night stands, but when the girl is 19 I can appreciate looking at a lot of skin.

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    “Beauty has to be gendered”

    I think you don’t need to “look like a man” or “look like a woman” to be pretty

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    My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

    Chasing ‘beauty standards’, I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn’t that what most people really want?

    If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to ‘comparative society’.

    Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

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      It can go too far in the opposite direction, though. I was raised in an environment where men doing literally anything besides showering a bit was gay.

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    I like how the standard has fractured and there isn’t really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.

    If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it’s just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.

    Later the tide shifted but as I didn’t grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn’t get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.

    But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of “natural beauty” is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.

    In terms of what I do not currently understand, it’s the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can’t wait for that trend to pass.

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    I would’ve said the tanning obsession, for health reasons, but that’s changed over the years.