Let’s discuss bisexual erasure. Have you experienced it? How has it affected you?
I’ve experienced erasure, I prefer feminine energy regardless of gender, as such I’ve had my sexuality dismissed by ‘friends’ and colleagues with statements like “that’s just straight and horny” or the other end of the spectrum: “you’re gay but clinging to social pressures”
I’m in a hetero-presenting relationship which just fuels the presumption of heterosexuality. I’ve been celebrated for being an ally and immediately dismissed when I suggested that I’m not an ally but a member. Makes seeing myself as a member… difficult.
There’s a tension in some LGBTQ communities- lesbian communities in particular (gold star).
I’m interested in your feelings/experiences with erasure.
Pan here, and we’re in the same boat. My spouse and I are both it/them and a lot of people just decide we’re being purposely obtuse for the attention.
On the upside it confuses the shit out of people because my spouse presents as conservatively feminine and I present as a flamboyantly gay man. We gush about each other vaguely so when our coworkers meet the other they’re like, “how the fuck is this relationship a thing?”
I got my first “any pronouns” button yesterday!! I always felt like a jerk for telling people that, like I was making fun of the pronoun thing. It was so moving to see it printed on a pile of buttons sitting there for anyone to take and wear. I didn’t even know it was a thing other people were doing until recently, I thought I was kind of on my own.