Let’s discuss bisexual erasure. Have you experienced it? How has it affected you?
I’ve experienced erasure, I prefer feminine energy regardless of gender, as such I’ve had my sexuality dismissed by ‘friends’ and colleagues with statements like “that’s just straight and horny” or the other end of the spectrum: “you’re gay but clinging to social pressures”
I’m in a hetero-presenting relationship which just fuels the presumption of heterosexuality. I’ve been celebrated for being an ally and immediately dismissed when I suggested that I’m not an ally but a member. Makes seeing myself as a member… difficult.
There’s a tension in some LGBTQ communities- lesbian communities in particular (gold star).
I’m interested in your feelings/experiences with erasure.
I totally relate. I feel like I’m outside the pride movement looking in, to the point where I’ve always approached it as if I WERE merely an “ally”. My partner is trans! This was my first year trying to approach it as though it were about ME and not everyone I know. Still feels like stolen valor or something?
“stolen valor”
Apt analogy. Every year pride comes around I also feel like an outsider.
I didn’t hear or see the words “bi[sexual]” or “pan[sexual]” all day yesterday at my local Pride event. Roughly a hundred stalls about dozens of topics, didn’t come up.