This YouTuber has created 4 astoundingly insightful videos about men. Patriarchal society fucks us up, either turning us into monsters or demanding a facade that runs so deep most of us forget it’s a facade. Even just articulating our feelings and mental health is a massive struggle.
Worth a watch by men and anyone who cares about men. And if you don’t care about men… well, that’s pretty typical of society at large, so don’t feel too guilty, but maybe you should start caring.
Maybe in some circles but I’ve always felt welcomed and supported by the women around me. I’m sorry that you can’t say the same.
I want you to know that your feelings are valid but please don’t let the actions of a few reactionaries spoil the entire ideal that feminism stands on.
I’m speaking on a holistic & practical level. Oh & the reason you’re welcomed is because you’re a useful tool, the instant you criticize them, you’ll be a misogynist & will be rail-roaded
I hear your frustration, and I won’t deny that some feminist spaces have blind spots or even hostility toward men’s issues. But dismissing the entire movement because of those flaws is like rejecting democracy because some politicians are corrupt it throws out the good with the bad. Feminism, at its core, is about dismantling rigid gender roles, which harms men too (e.g., stigma around male vulnerability, custody biases, conscription).
You’re right that some self-labeled feminists don’t live up to that ideal, but that doesn’t negate the millions who fight for parental leave, against male suicide stigma, or for LGBTQ+ rights. If you’ve been burned by hypocrites, I get it but I’d encourage you to judge ideas by their best advocates, not their worst.
That said, I’m open to your examples. If we agree the goal is equality, maybe we can find common ground on where movements fall short.
This YouTuber has created 4 astoundingly insightful videos about men. Patriarchal society fucks us up, either turning us into monsters or demanding a facade that runs so deep most of us forget it’s a facade. Even just articulating our feelings and mental health is a massive struggle.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pm5gX_wgic
Worth a watch by men and anyone who cares about men. And if you don’t care about men… well, that’s pretty typical of society at large, so don’t feel too guilty, but maybe you should start caring.
In the same vein, I’d like to remind people that feminism is also for men.
As a start, I think bell hooks’ The Will to Change can be a good intro.
Bell Hooks gets quoted in the video FWIW
No it ain’t, feminism is for women only
Maybe in some circles but I’ve always felt welcomed and supported by the women around me. I’m sorry that you can’t say the same.
I want you to know that your feelings are valid but please don’t let the actions of a few reactionaries spoil the entire ideal that feminism stands on.
I’m speaking on a holistic & practical level. Oh & the reason you’re welcomed is because you’re a useful tool, the instant you criticize them, you’ll be a misogynist & will be rail-roaded
I can give practical examples as well. Example 1
I hear your frustration, and I won’t deny that some feminist spaces have blind spots or even hostility toward men’s issues. But dismissing the entire movement because of those flaws is like rejecting democracy because some politicians are corrupt it throws out the good with the bad. Feminism, at its core, is about dismantling rigid gender roles, which harms men too (e.g., stigma around male vulnerability, custody biases, conscription).
You’re right that some self-labeled feminists don’t live up to that ideal, but that doesn’t negate the millions who fight for parental leave, against male suicide stigma, or for LGBTQ+ rights. If you’ve been burned by hypocrites, I get it but I’d encourage you to judge ideas by their best advocates, not their worst.
That said, I’m open to your examples. If we agree the goal is equality, maybe we can find common ground on where movements fall short.