By Chuck Derry For many years, I facilitated courtmandated groups for men who batter. In the early 1980s we were concentrating on healthy relationship skills building, emotional identification and selfcontrol, and anger management, among other related issues. Then battered women in Duluth, Minnesota, began gathering to discuss the impact of the violence on their lives.… Continue Reading Abusive Men Describe the Benefits of Violence
I think there has been some misunderstanding somewhere, maybe it was my phrasing. But I 100% agree with what you just said. I have made similar experiences.
My point was that the article posted here does a bad job at explaining any of this or at offering any meaningful explanation for people suffering under abuse and their allies.
And I would hope that victims of abuse would be persuaded to leave abusive relationships by being confronted with the reasons of their abuse, but they often seem to have very skewed views on their abuser (who they probably won’t even identify as an abuser) and it is hard to get them to confront that. This is to say that just asking abusers to list all of their reasons probably won’t challenge the view of the victims.
I think there has been some misunderstanding somewhere, maybe it was my phrasing. But I 100% agree with what you just said. I have made similar experiences.
My point was that the article posted here does a bad job at explaining any of this or at offering any meaningful explanation for people suffering under abuse and their allies.
And I would hope that victims of abuse would be persuaded to leave abusive relationships by being confronted with the reasons of their abuse, but they often seem to have very skewed views on their abuser (who they probably won’t even identify as an abuser) and it is hard to get them to confront that. This is to say that just asking abusers to list all of their reasons probably won’t challenge the view of the victims.