Closeted transfem person here who’s Closeted because I want to become independent and get my own stable place to live before I come out.

I just had a few questions and wanted to ask them in one post instead of multiple posts

  • Closeted transfem women pre physical transition who are also lesbian, for those of you that do feel this how do you deal with that wierdness that you feel when calling yourself lesbian and identifying as lesbian even though you look down and see a male body?
  • To Transfem women with autism, I’m also on the spectrum. Is there anything I should know?
  • Closeted Transfem women still living with parents, how do I secretly be feminine without my parents finding out
  • Transfem women who moved out of their hometown to a more progressive city, What steps did you take? I currently don’t like my hometown because of its voting demographics favouring the political party equivalent here in Australia that mirrors right wingers & terrible people from america and my local crime watch group on Facebook which has a large amount of my hometowns population in it has a percentage of awful members in it
  • Closeted transfem women who can’t go to see therapists due to living with parents, how do you self manage your mental health and self therapy yourself
  • nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    3 days ago

    -i dont feel any weirdness calling myself a lesbian, trans women are women after all. this stigma fades after enough time to let it become normal

    -im not diagnosed but pretty sure lol, not a position id give advice from though

    -assuming your parents arent helicopter patents and invading your privacy, feminine undergarments are good outlets for this. i used to wear cheap sports bras (the ones with no padding, just the fabric/elastic) under my shirt. compression underwear (gaffe) or just womens underwear in general are nice too

    shaving your body is a good way as well, and if you are allowed to grow out your hair then styling that in some way (even if its just a ponytail or bun) is nice

    -still in my hometown

    -couldnt see a therapist not because of my parents (money and priorities) for a long time, but i dealt with my mental health struggles through online gaming and friend groups. sorta brute forcing myself to be confident, and keeping in mind that it gets better. therapy helps though, even if slowly with how good i am at masking