My dad was almost a duplicate of the ex-Marine neighbor in the movie American Beauty. So, 1) I would not be too surprised but 2) if he came out to you your life is in danger.
My mom would never have actually come out either. She would have insisted that, “Oh, don’t be crude! She and I are just good friends,” until death.
They’ve been together over 40 years, I’d be fairly surprised. But if that’s who they are, I’d obviously support both of them.
I would suddenly feel very sad for the one of them that bottled it up for 40 years, and for the other who obviously has known for many of those years…
Sometimes they are really good at hiding it for 40 years, leading to even worse heart break. Surely there was some denial involved, but still…
it would deeply pain me that they’ve had to suffer staying in the closet for so long, but i would be happy that they are now free to be what they feel they need to be.
Well, my mother’s name is a male name where we live. So not much would change.
gay != trans
I won’t react
My reaction would be “holy shit you’re actually still alive.”
Convenient since my mum passed away a few days ago actually.
I am really sorry for your loss. I wish peace and healing to you and all who loved your mother.
Thanks, I appreciate it.
Happy Easter!
Thanks, you too.
One of my kids is trans and pan. The other is lesbian. My niece is trans and lesbian. My other nibling (look it up) is gender-fluid. My sister is bisexual. My aunt was lesbian. I have multiple gay uncles and grand-uncles.
There are a lot of LGBTQ+ people in my extended family, on both sides, and it’s not a small family. So if either came out as gay, I wouldn’t be particularly surprised.
Especially if it’s my mother, who is already out as bisexual.
As for how I’d react? Mostly by saying, “Thank you for telling me, that must have been very hard for you.” No recrimination or anger, of course. I love my parents, and either of them coming out wouldn’t affect that in the slightest.
I know they won’t, because my parents are devout Muslims.
My mother loathes the fact that my brother is gay, not even for religion reasons but because she’s psychotic, so for her to come out would be highly satisfying because then maybe I could make her feel bad about it the way she makes him feel, cunt that she is.
My mom? Thank heavens, her taste in men is TRASH. Surely her taste in women has to be better.
Dad? I’d tell whoever told me that I don’t care what my dad is up to.
You’d think but she’d just bring home a Shane type
So funnily enough, she has had romantic interest in 2-3 women in her life who were very close friends that were gregarious, successful,kind, and independent.
But she wasn’t actually attracted to them. It’s like her brain recognized “oh hey these people would be wonderful to have has life partners.”
But she’s not attracted to women. So yeah still hoping she’ll decide she likes women. Cause my dad was rock bottom and her recent boy friends were looking for a new mom to take care of them at 55.
So yeah, her taste in women would hopefully stay high if she decides she is gay!
I’d laugh and walk away shaking my head. It’s a kinda hard to explain but it’s them being in that situation thing. If my brother or sister did I’d be fine not really react as it’s not a big deal.
I’d be fucking pissed. You disowned me for how fucking long over my queerness and were gay the whole time‽
If mom was still alive and gay I’d be surprised but happy for her and probably try to set her up with someone. She actually took me to my first gay bar.
Upvote for interrobang
I’d be really surprised they came back to life. But seriously I would just support them and do nothing I guess
I would feel very sorry for both of them.
My parents are in their 80s. They’ve been married 50+ years. I know that they came very close to divorce at one point, and ultimately only stayed together because their religion says that you shouldn’t divorce (except in cases of physical abuse and infidelity). To discover that they had stayed married, and both of them miserable, for 50+ years because of a bullshit religion would be heartbreaking.
I would find it completely uninteresting. Everyone has a type.
