so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic
she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.
she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”
she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.
You see this part right? This is why I’m asking
I don’t know if it is this you are confused about, but I have meet wonderful well-meaning people who simply got the terms confused and it would sound very similar to this, so just in case.
Trans man = man and Trans Woman = woman
So in this case OP calls the trans man he( which is correct ), and the other girl tells OP “she is a girl even though she looks like a man” while speaking of the trans guy (which is incorrect).
What? No the “I” part. They are talking about their coworker, but then they said that they themselves do this. You’re not even remotely close to what I’m talking about. I bolded “when I call” how is this not clear?
Then ignore. I have meet people who would have underlined the same sentence because of the reason I explained. So I just wanted to make sure that wasn’t the problem.
Sorry I shouldn’t have snapped at you. Unwarranted
I appreciate the apology, we can all have bad day.
No i agree it’s poorly phrased. But I still understand it to mean she is the one spouting the transphobia between the tense of ‘says’ and context.
Yeah that’s my inclination as well. Just wanted to be sure lol