The closest word I can think of is a sycophant but that’s too strong word and not exactly what I’m looking for. The word I’m thinking of has negative connotations and it’s for someone who is friends with different groups but only at a superficial level and isn’t necessarily honest about who all they’re friends with. This person would be seen as untrustworthy.

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    Ex-cons might not be the best group to use in your example…

    If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick - notably as the current iteration of fascists are intent on ensuring people like me are dead or ground under their boot.

    On the flip side, just because I had a disagreement with someone doesn’t mean other friends can’t be friends with that someone - it takes a lot to be called “an enemy” of myself.

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      Why? If they’re Ex-cons, they’ve done their time and they deserve to be treated the same as everyone else.

      They’re a perfect group to use in my example.

      And there are very few actual fascists out there. If you’ve used that word more than twice this week, it might be a you problem.

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        It’s precisely that they should be treated the same that I don’t believe they make a good example as someone you wouldn’t want to be associating with.

        You shouldn’t care that mates of yours hang with ex-cons, so there is no conflict to be had there.

        I wasn’t remarking on the incidence rate of fascists, merely commenting on their views.

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      If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick

      Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

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        8 months ago

        Given how out and proud the sentiments are expressed, the friend can’t say they didn’t know… I wouldn’t waste much time trying to have them see reason. You don’t accidentally join a dinner party where everyone else is a white supremacist, or an anti-vaxxer, or where everything they don’t like is woke and thus should be eliminated.

        Either way I said probably… Which would likely follow as certainly after an attempt to see if maybe they have been wilfully ignorant (still not a good look).

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          You obviously don’t know how cults work. But that’s fine. I hope you’ll never lose a real friend to one.

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              Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

              you’re planning to spend time debating with a ziganwu? or if you’re western, a staunch far-left or far-right supporter or someone with very racist views?