My go to is the “See yourself as the price.”-approach. When you jokingly set her up that she is hitting on you. For example:
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Me: Oh I see, already trying to get me drunk, eh?
Prize, not price. And thinking unrealistically high of yourself will only attract low self-esteem girls. If that’s your thing, great for you.
The best strategy in my experience is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive. Self confidence is more attractive than narcissism, at least for my type of girl.
is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive.
If I’m understanding you correctly. Those things aren’t necessarily exclusive to each other in my opinion. I am constantly thinking of something funny to say because I like saying funny or flirtatious things. And you can learn these things, yet still hold true to oneself.
Yes, there is overlapping. You make an effort to say funny and witty things, partly because you think it will make you look smart, hence attractive, and partly because you enjoy making her laugh. Which part is the biggest influences how confident you seem.
The closest I’ve ever gotten to intentionally flirting and it succeeding was playing “Questions Only.” with someone who didn’t know I was playing this. My friend, who dared me to play, had to tell the target my name since I couldn’t say my name since I had to respond to everything with a question.
So, um, learn to listen?
“Didn’t I already tell you my name is HobbitFoot?”
Step 1. Spend stupid money on a supercar rental
Step 2. Drive up and down the high street. Getting stuck in standstill traffic is a plus so i can rev my engine next to the ears of the shoppers
Step 3. Profit??
Actually nevermind, i never actually do this and walked past a lot of this recently and it makes me wonder
Ever seen birds doing their best to attract mates?
That is what they are going for and it is just as obnoxious.
Like a Peacock with glass packs.
My technique is to not be interested in the person. Not like ignoring them or being mean or anything. But… when I like someone, I get all shy and awkward around them and I tend to screw up any attempt at socializing.
If I’m not romantically interested in them, I can be myself, which I’ve been told is naturally very funny and flirtatious.
Every person I’ve ever dated was a friend long before I started a relationship with them, because I took the time to know them and eventually developed mutual feelings for them. By the time I was asked out, I already had deep respect for them and felt comfortable being myself around them, so dating was just the next step in our relationship.
And yes, I’ve always been the one asked out. I asked out a girl once, and instead of just saying no, she made a public spectacle about how creepy I was and how she would never date me. I was extremely shy back then and my failed attempts to approach her apparently came off as me creeping on her, so by the time I actually worked up the courage to talk to her, she gave me a traumatizingly public “hell no.” I never asked anyone else out again after that. I’ve dated close to a dozen people in my life and every single one of them asked me out.
Completely ignoring and never talking to them.
In my experience flirting effectively has been about being open to possibility without becoming attached to any particular outcome. Someone sent me this video as a joke years ago and I’ve come back to it dozens of time because there’s a lot of truth hiding behind the silliness. We view flirting as thing you do, but I prefer to see flirtatiousness as a mindset I sometimes embody. https://youtu.be/B4g-IlGtpZg
What a cool video, thank you!
Showing genuine interest in their personality and hobbies with eye contact. Asking questions about the aforementioned hobbies.
If you ever have the opposite situation, like say you are taken but someone has started flirting with you. You can either say you are spoken for or do the opposite of the above advice and talk only about yourself, adding some petty complaints about your life in general.
Lost me at “eye contact”.
You sound 12, no offense. It’s also “prize”, not “price”, within the context of what you said.
Being near them for 4 years as a casual acquaintance and hoping they eventually initiate something.
And how’s that going for ya?
Disassociate and make funny small talk while i internally have an anxiety attack.
Pro move.
Classic cousin of the “realize a week later they were hitting on you and you blew it monumentally”
A week? What is this, professional hour?! Try a few years.
For guys, saying “hi”.
For girls, I have to go hunting a Dragon with the sword of King Arthur to be considered worth of a cup of coffee.
Must a be one hell of a coffee.
“Hi, I’m an ultra boring nerd girl. I’m on several Fediverse platforms. …No, I don’t know Nicole. Please don’t follow me. No seriously please don’t.”
I’m not very good at socialising, sorry
swoon
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Wait are you hitting on them at their place of work, as a customer? Don’t fucking do that.
as a customer?
No, no, as her supervisor.
Ok, that’s funny. I’d go on a date with you.
I find that cringe tbh. Just be curious about the other person and talk like a human, not like a creep. Asking shit like “are you trying to get time drunk?” might sound funny to a man, but it is a legitimate concern for women and makes you sound like an arrogant teenager.
How in hell did your rational take get downvoted… The Lemmy hive mind is certainly just as bad as Reddit’s.
Yep, the more you spend here the more you realize it’s just Reddit but ad-ftee lol
Become a ball of anxiety, never talk to them, remain alone.
