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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world · 11 days ago

any women here? how do i calm myself before i get close to someone?

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any women here? how do i calm myself before i get close to someone?

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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world · 11 days ago

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i am not talking about performance anxiety i think

it is something else

i might feel

being close to someone = danger = EJECT EJECT EJECT
someone i like shows she likes me = danger = PUSH PUSH PUSH her away
i am needy therefore i will be exploited
those who love get screwed. so i must not get close to anyone i love
i have no support network therefore i will be badly hurt when this ends, and almost everything ends
she does x or y, so she is not good enough, so i won’t get close to her

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You may have either an anxious or avoidant attachment style. You should read up on these to better understand what your triggers are and how to work past them.

Read the book: Attached. It may change your life. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attached

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