I’m guessing the answer is “no”, but thought I’d ask for advice here regardless.
I don’t have FB. Haven’t for years. I ditched it long before I started giving a shit about Privacy, it’s just so toxic and silly.
That said, I’m a retro gamer constantly on the hunt for holes in my NES/SNES collection and unfortunately the folks in my area seem to be quite a bit more active on FB Marketplace than Craiglist, Offerup, or Nextdoor For Sale pages. In the past I’ve asked my spouse to message the seller for me and then show up with cash and buy what they’re selling. Increasingly, sellers are scared of scams and seem to be less responsive to this type of inquiry.
Is there anyway to minimize footprint in FB? Or perhaps a way to use Messenger without an account? You can browse the marketplace pages of your community without an account, but they’ll pester you the whole time and you can’t save your locale without signing in.
Or am I out of luck entirely? I thought about posting “In Search Of” type posts on Craiglists to bring the buyers to me, but my area has several of those already and I’m not after bulk lots or other platforms other than the old Nintendo stuff.
I do check Ebay as well and have found a few gems for decent prices and a local shop occasionally has some stuff that hasn’t been completely picked over, or i show up right after someone sells their collection and that’s rad, but that’s rare.
As someone with ADHD: please dont blame lack of meds for shit like this. You are contributing to the stigma. Just own your mistakes.
Poor impulse control is a hallmark symptom. It could very well be viewed that my decision to reply was a lack of impulse control. Especially because, intellectually I understand that I didn’t need to respond at all and that I was adding negative energy where there wasn’t any… generally not a nice thing to do. Looking back on it, I see that.
I’m not sure that I agree that “owning my mistake” is a solution here.
It’s also worth noting that blaming me for worsening a stigma against ADHD is kinda triggering. It makes me feel shitty, without any clear path to improving. Unless I misunderstand what it means to own your mistakes. I generally understand that to mean “I fucking suck, I see that and I will endeavor to do better”.
Idk…
I aoologize, I should have realized it would feel like I was piling on and that wasn’t really my intent.
I’m not saying it aint the ADHD. Not to be presumptuous, but I suspect from the sound of it I am probably a lot like you in some ways. I’m just saying you dont need to bring up ADHD at all. Just accept that you fucked up, apologize, and move on. And that’s what I meant by “own your mistake.” I felt like bringing up ADHD is still deflecting unnecessarily. It doesn’t mean you are a shitty person, it just means you were rude once on the internet.
That’s a very mature way to view it. I respect that.
I dont think that is a healthy way to view having made a mistake, especially one so minor. Not that I generally manage to avoid the same trap. I think the mindful approach to guilt or remorse would be to observe and judge the actions, but not to judge ourselves. With this, give yourself some grace. You’re probably your own worst critic.
I’ve always viewed apologies as best summed up by this sentiment. Almost every time I cause hurt or harm, it is unintentional. Unfortunately, that is rarely an excuse. The best I can do is try to make up for it and try not to make the same mistake, in the same way, again.