You know that it’s entirely possible to live in a generally patriarchal society, while some men have it shit, right? No one is arguing that we live in absolute patriarchy.

Men are stronger and don’t carry the species’ children, so nature is a bit biased towards them in some ways. But you’re right, it’s not easy. That just explains why it’s mostly men that rise to the very top. There’s a lot of society below that top that gets conveniently ignored in these discussions, including a lot of ditch digging.