It’s a fair point. Also women abusing tends to be more mental/emotional. Not that men don’t emotionally abuse their spouses, but it’s far more often to be physical, and thus harder to hide.

Also men, at least in America, are conditioned from a young age to “man up” and deal. We don’t have mental health issues. Not until we bottle it up for years and it gets to the point that we can’t hide our constant panic attacks any more. That, itself, probably comes from generations of being the sole provider. It’s a lot of stress. Our dads did it, why can’t we? Because it’s fucking hard, and you won’t get them to honestly admit it. At least the younger generations finally are (even if the earlier ones had it quite a bit easier).