Thanks for minimizing the abuse I went through. Fuck you. Maybe a big part of why men are underrepresented in abuse statistics is because we are considered the abuser by default and are expected to just suck it up and take it. Go eat a bag of dicks, apologist.
Thanks for minimizing the abuse I went through. Fuck you. Maybe a big part of why men are underrepresented in abuse statistics is because we are considered the abuser by default and are expected to just suck it up and take it. Go eat a bag of dicks, apologist.
Yeah, that doesn’t sound abusive in the slightest. I cannot begin to imagine you as the abuser in any relationship, especially one lasting more than fifteen seconds. You really don’t sound like the kind of guy to need a human punching bag, no, not at all. Well done, Stegget. Well done.
I am. I’m also aware that being abused does not give anyone to right to abuse others, and that a single person can be both.
And I am also extremely aware, unfortunately, that one of the abuser’s handiest tools is DARVO.
I have no knowledge whatsoever regarding this person’s past, their involvement with an ex, or anything that happened between them.
But what I am aware of is that when this person was triggered by a mere stranger expressing an opinion, they instantly went on the attack with namecalling, profanity directed specifically at the person expressing an opinion, and an aggression that was uncalled for by the fact that someone expressed an opinion that differed from what they maintain is their experience.
He started with an objectively false accusation, and twisted it to be personalized against himself:
Thanks for minimizing the abuse I went through. Fuck you.
Then he took his frustration with the ENTIRETY of society and hurled it back at this person.
Maybe a big part of why men are underrepresented in abuse statistics is because we are considered the abuser by default and are expected to just suck it up and take it.
He then finished with another false accusation – “apologist” – and wrapped that up in a nice bit of verbal abuse to conclude:
Go eat a bag of dicks, apologist.
Yes, I am an asshole. But I also know how to control my anger, how not to make passing commenters the punching bags for my own dissatisfaction with life, how not to turn a ten second interaction into an outright verbal assault on others, and how to keep from calling online passersby names when I don’t agree with them.
Again, I have no knowledge of what happened between this guy and his ex, and do not claim to.
But what he did here to a passing commenter speaks for itself.
But what I am aware of is that when this person was triggered by a mere stranger expressing an opinion, they instantly went on the attack with namecalling, […]
But what he did here to a passing commenter speaks for itself.
Says the person that immediately accused the person of not being a victim but actually being the abuser, just because he is a man and was (understandibly) angry when someone said men don’t deserve as much help, since there are fewer male abuse victims
I would say that saying “go eat a bag of dicks” is not even close to as serious an accusing someone of being an domestic abuser, especially to someone who has been on the receiving end no less
Idk what the other guy’s problem is, he needs some serious help, but the OP isn’t minimizing abuse, he’s providing reasonable explanations for this occuring. He’s not minimizing anyone’s abuse, and accusing him of such a thing is unhelpful to say the least.
Should it be this way? No, it’d be way better if men and women weren’t treated any differently and everyone was encouraged to get the help they need equally. I read his comment as saying this is a cultural issue, not a Google issue, and that it’s important that those of us who can should speak openly with other people about the problems gender inequality causes in our society in order to push our communities to treat both men and women seriously when it comes to things like abuse.
He’s not at all blaming men, or saying “men are statistically more likely to do X so they SHOULD treat it like this”, he’s saying “men are more likely to do X which is the rationalization for them treating it like this, but it’s part of a bigger problem that we need to fix”. But maybe I’m not seeing how it was a malicious comment.
I didn’t minimize anything. I pointed out how googles algorithm used statistics to deliver search results and then urged people to educate themselves about the issue to start building a foundation for meaningful change.
Thanks for minimizing the abuse I went through. Fuck you. Maybe a big part of why men are underrepresented in abuse statistics is because we are considered the abuser by default and are expected to just suck it up and take it. Go eat a bag of dicks, apologist.
Yeah, that doesn’t sound abusive in the slightest. I cannot begin to imagine you as the abuser in any relationship, especially one lasting more than fifteen seconds. You really don’t sound like the kind of guy to need a human punching bag, no, not at all. Well done, Stegget. Well done.
Making horrible accusations against people because they expressed frustration in a comment is really shitty. Peak Reddit.
You seem to be projecting…
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You’re an asshole.
I am. I’m also aware that being abused does not give anyone to right to abuse others, and that a single person can be both.
And I am also extremely aware, unfortunately, that one of the abuser’s handiest tools is DARVO.
I have no knowledge whatsoever regarding this person’s past, their involvement with an ex, or anything that happened between them.
But what I am aware of is that when this person was triggered by a mere stranger expressing an opinion, they instantly went on the attack with namecalling, profanity directed specifically at the person expressing an opinion, and an aggression that was uncalled for by the fact that someone expressed an opinion that differed from what they maintain is their experience.
He started with an objectively false accusation, and twisted it to be personalized against himself:
Then he took his frustration with the ENTIRETY of society and hurled it back at this person.
He then finished with another false accusation – “apologist” – and wrapped that up in a nice bit of verbal abuse to conclude:
Yes, I am an asshole. But I also know how to control my anger, how not to make passing commenters the punching bags for my own dissatisfaction with life, how not to turn a ten second interaction into an outright verbal assault on others, and how to keep from calling online passersby names when I don’t agree with them.
Again, I have no knowledge of what happened between this guy and his ex, and do not claim to.
But what he did here to a passing commenter speaks for itself.
Says the person that immediately accused the person of not being a victim but actually being the abuser, just because he is a man and was (understandibly) angry when someone said men don’t deserve as much help, since there are fewer male abuse victims
I would say that saying “go eat a bag of dicks” is not even close to as serious an accusing someone of being an domestic abuser, especially to someone who has been on the receiving end no less
Not cool, mate. Too far. disappointed face.
Idk what the other guy’s problem is, he needs some serious help, but the OP isn’t minimizing abuse, he’s providing reasonable explanations for this occuring. He’s not minimizing anyone’s abuse, and accusing him of such a thing is unhelpful to say the least.
Should it be this way? No, it’d be way better if men and women weren’t treated any differently and everyone was encouraged to get the help they need equally. I read his comment as saying this is a cultural issue, not a Google issue, and that it’s important that those of us who can should speak openly with other people about the problems gender inequality causes in our society in order to push our communities to treat both men and women seriously when it comes to things like abuse.
He’s not at all blaming men, or saying “men are statistically more likely to do X so they SHOULD treat it like this”, he’s saying “men are more likely to do X which is the rationalization for them treating it like this, but it’s part of a bigger problem that we need to fix”. But maybe I’m not seeing how it was a malicious comment.
Thanks for this. You summed up what I was trying to say nicely.
I didn’t minimize anything. I pointed out how googles algorithm used statistics to deliver search results and then urged people to educate themselves about the issue to start building a foundation for meaningful change.
How did this meme help the conversation?
Do you think the comments seem divisive?