In a few months, I am going to need a lawyer who will represent my interest without going behind my back. If he goes behind my back, I can lose all my life savings. I cannot find such a professional from open market. I have to have powerful friends who care about me to find such a professional.

[question 1] I’ve been around a couple of powerful or rich people. They usually seem to like me. But I am not very good at being open. My initial reaction when people invite me to doing things, directly or indirectly, is to say no or to maintain my distance… because deep down that is what I want. So I gotta change what I want, somehow, but how?

[question 2] There was an ex member of parliament who kinda invited me to his office or something almost two decades ago. I don’t remember what he said but it was about him telling me/us he is open to communication despite us not initiating anything. We were both speakers at an event. I was a kid. What would be a good way to approach him now lol? I want to get his opinion on a complex situation. He is a wealthy politician so he might have the answer I need. I am someone who is trying to protect his interest against a big corporation, with no connections.

[question 3] What can I offer to powerful people? How do you make friends with them? I am not particularly funny. I don’t make people around me feel better by being funny or validating or something. I am interesting, respectable, happy ish. My company is chill, and not that fun…

    • amksenin@lemmy.worldOP
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      9 days ago

      I am not very good at communicating either

      I guess I will just try and be myself, and if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. And I guess I don’t need to have a perfect life. Sometimes shit happens and you get fucked. Which is ok I guess because I tried

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    Wanna be a bit more specific? This is a very strange story. You need a criminal defense attorney or something?

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    Go to brunch at an upscale restaurant and find the table filled with white women drunk on mimosas. One of them is always a lawyer. Befriend her. It’s easiest if you’re gay, or can pretend to be.

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    I’m inferring that you are not in the US, so your local laws may differ. But in the US, your attorney is required to act in your best interests to the best of their ability. Working against their client is a quick way to be disbarred and paying a massive amount to their (now former) client.

    That said, this whole thing seems like an exercise in creative writing. Your life savings would be too tempting to any attorney, and they would try to steal it? You need to make friends with someone powerful to find a good lawyer? You’ll need all of this in a few months, but not now? None of it makes any sense.

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      This is the answer.

      How do you get there? Well, there’s country clubs, having your kids at the same expensive riding club, being a board member for the same orgs as them… but those are all expensive.

      Cheaper ways? Faith based groups, dog walking and… attending conferences.

      All of them require you to reach out to them as people, ask about their lives, and actively listen to their responses. People generally don’t want to hear anything about you, so you don’t have to be that open.

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        reach out to them as people, ask about their lives, and actively listen to their responses

        That’s all I gotta do?